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Sep 2019
8:58pm, 22 Sep 2019
6,217 posts
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WA
SweetPea had been doing really well. In year 10 she got to school every day, and had a very balanced coping approach. She's been back at school 2 weeks and has had a meltdown pretty much every day. There's been a lot of rolling about on the floor, a lot of tears, a lot of screaming. We are talking about a holiday in Feb half term, and she can't even chat about the possibility of going away. She used to scratch herself so much that her hands resembled someone who had punched a wall, and I've noticed a few unexplained scratches on her hands and arms this week. In calm moments she can rationalise her reactions, and says she knows that gcses are a means to an end not an end in themselves. But she's rarely calm at the moment.
I find it so hard to know what to do. I've tried comfort (it's easy for you mum etc etc); I've tried tough talk (really, really bad idea); I've tried letting her get on with it (you don't care mum).
I'm really not looking forward to the next 9 months.
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Sep 2019
9:04pm, 22 Sep 2019
17,697 posts
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Carpathius
Huge hugs WA, that's so tough on both of you 
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Sep 2019
9:29pm, 22 Sep 2019
20,535 posts
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Meglet
Trip to the GP? Counselling? Is there something specific about her subjects or school that’s causing an issue?
It’s so hard. I fell out with my Teen last week (over a trip she wants to do at Christmas with her boyfriend’s family-I said no) and got accused of not understanding her. Then I remembered I didn’t think my parents understood me.
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Sep 2019
9:48pm, 22 Sep 2019
28,891 posts
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halfpint
I wonder how much pressure the school are piling on. I remember the ‘this is the most important year of your life so far’ type speeches well. Every class teacher focusing on their subject with no concept of the amount of work other teachers are setting. The school have a responsibility to ensure the wellbeing of their pupils.
When they are stressed there doesn’t seem to be a lot we can do right does there?
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Sep 2019
9:56pm, 22 Sep 2019
6,218 posts
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WA
Yes there's a lot of those speeches going on
Meglet, she's had a lot of support from CAMHS but was discharged during last academic year.
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Sep 2019
9:58pm, 22 Sep 2019
20,536 posts
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Meglet
Ah I see. If it helped are you able to get back in touch?
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Sep 2019
10:08pm, 22 Sep 2019
6,219 posts
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WA
I'm going to give them a ring. I don't think they will see her again without a re-referral, but there may be something they can suggest.
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Sep 2019
7:29am, 25 Sep 2019
29,598 posts
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LindsD
How did you get on, WA?
I'm totally ground down with LittleD. She hasn't been in school the past two days. She complains of feeling sick and sleeps a lot. I took her to the doctor, not because I felt she was physically ill, but because I wanted some kind of lever to get her back to school. Dr has referred to paeds but intimated that she thought it was more likely to be psychological.
School gave her an action plan for keeping up/catching up at the start of term. She has done pretty much nothing on the plan. Shows no interest in homework or even trying to understand what is going on in maths or science. Enormous problems with food and only a limited amount of things she will eat, which seems to change every day - porridge is the latest reject.
Aggressive and angry, or monosyllabic. Sometimes just fine and seems happy.
She is seeing the counsellor but won't talk about it (fair enough) but only gets six sessions.
Not asking for advice, just venting. Am so exhausted.
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Sep 2019
8:19am, 25 Sep 2019
5,304 posts
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TeeBee
Hugs Linds. Such a worry
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Sep 2019
8:51am, 25 Sep 2019
14,153 posts
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Serendippily
Dropping in to dispense hugs. There is no easy solutions apart from anything else you can cope with the bar being set *here* for a short term but not for the long term and you have to get through this yourself too. Is private counselling an option Linds? Because maybe it would be a relief to know there’s someone she’s talking to if camhs is unlikely to provide it longer term. Especially if talking to you makes it more likely she will blame you for all the things she can’t cope with, just because when there’s no control it is really hard not to kick someone lying down in front of you. Hope I’m not talking out of turn when someone is really suffering it is just gut wrenching to watch xx
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