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Carpathius Sep 2019 8:14pm, 9 Sep 2019 17,611 posts	0 Carpathius I did not stay. I think she wanted me to secretly but she also knew she has to try and deal with it. We stayed until after a doctor's appointment rather than leaving in the morning. We were on the M25 when she called in tears I spent ten miles talking to her on speakerphone (and trying to watch the road) and in the end forced her to go down to her housemate's room and knock on the door and hand the 'phone over so I could explain a bit. She didn't want to, but did it. Now at services, slightly stressed! Also stressed as I won't be home until about 11 ish, then need to get all my stuff together for placement in the morning. And try to sleep. 12.5 hours on a large, horrendously busy ward will be ok I'm sure... I don't know if I was right to make her go to Lucy. It was all I could think of. I hope so.
DocMoye Sep 2019 8:28pm, 9 Sep 2019 29,944 posts	0 DocMoye You did the best you could and it sounds like a good decision given the circumstances. Without a crystal ball you cannot know what the best thing to do is.
ThorntonRunner Sep 2019 9:48pm, 9 Sep 2019 2,484 posts	0 ThorntonRunner What doc said
LindsD Sep 2019 7:00am, 10 Sep 2019 29,352 posts	0 LindsD I agree. Hope she's ok. (())
Carpathius Sep 2019 7:20am, 10 Sep 2019 17,618 posts	0 Carpathius After another sobbing 'phone call where she said "I want to go home" (which just about broke my heart), I'm going back down there this morning. I'm going to get her an appointment with the wellbeing team (she tried yesterday but she's too polite when they say they haven't got any available and to call back in a few days) and see if I can get her through the first few days. More housemates will be arriving at the weekend too. It might not help, she might be the same at the end of the week, but I think coming home and going back at the end of Freshers - she was going to get a train at 8pm last night - is the worst thing she could do.
LindsD Sep 2019 7:24am, 10 Sep 2019 29,354 posts	0 LindsD I agree. Sorry you and she have to go through this. Hope you can sort out your placement (())
The Mighty Fleecy Sep 2019 7:55am, 10 Sep 2019 47,209 posts	0 The Mighty Fleecy Just sending you a hug Carp, and I hope you can both get her through this transition. It’s a fine line to tread being supportive but also not wanting to be so involved she can’t learn to cope by herself. There are no right answers, just like with most parenting x
Bazoaxe Sep 2019 12:17pm, 10 Sep 2019 15,186 posts	0 Bazoaxe Carp ,you are dealing with this correctly. I am sure this will lead to the best outcome, but it must be tough.
Carpathius Sep 2019 1:04pm, 10 Sep 2019 17,623 posts	0 Carpathius That's it exactly Fleecy. She managed really well last year, but is definitely not coping now. Just realised it's RNR on Saturday when I planned to come back. Even if I come back Friday, it's a four-hour round trip to run less than six miles. Then I have a shift on Sunday. One thing at a time!
LindsD Sep 2019 1:35pm, 10 Sep 2019 29,365 posts	0 LindsD Indeed. One thing at a time. Shit happens. I'm sure someone else can run your leg.