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Sep 2019
12:37pm, 25 Sep 2019
28,901 posts
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halfpint
LindsD you can tell the school you consulted with an Educational Psychologist and she says that removing privileges is not the answer. I get really f*cked off with secondary schools who think that the solution to everything is to be 'tougher'. We are not bloody dogs who can be trained by using rewards or punishments. We are complex beings. Punitive measures do not get to the heart of the needs of these young people and invariably alienate them even further.
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Sep 2019
12:44pm, 25 Sep 2019
29,608 posts
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LindsD
Thank you so much. The school definitely has that attitude. I hate it.
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Sep 2019
1:38pm, 25 Sep 2019
17,715 posts
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Carpathius
I can't offer anything useful, but have big hugs xxx
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Sep 2019
2:04pm, 25 Sep 2019
1,478 posts
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Lorraine
Many of you may remember that a year ago I collected my eldest daughter from university, 24 hrs after dropping her off. If I hadn’t have collected her I am as certain as I can be that she wouldn’t be here now.
Fast forward a year. We never did get the emergency psychiatric appointment she was revered to through the NHS. Because she was at home they thought she was safe. Thankfully our private health care covers mental health and they helped me find an amazing psychiatric consultant who she is still under. Her diagnosis is bipolar affective disorder and she is lithium. In November she started working as a sales assistant this month she was made a supervisor ( first step of management) She deferred her place at university but has just told them she won’t be joining them. She is looking at going to university next year, doing something completely different and living at home. She managed to go holiday with a group of friends in July , this was a massive thing for her but she did it.
We have come a long way and I am incredibly proud of her.
Meanwhile daughter no 2 is off to university on Saturday. We won’t have a repeat of her sister although it is in the back of all our minds. It helps she will only be an hour away rather than the 3 hrs her sister was.
LindsD my eldest was v v part time from in yrs 10,11,12,13. It really helped that we had full support of the schools ( she changed for 6th form) Removing privileges is a complete nonsense, it will make things worse. It’s really hard on everyone and we often felt like we were walking on eggshells. All I can say is hang in there. Keep going back to your GP and ask for help.
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Sep 2019
2:43pm, 25 Sep 2019
30,156 posts
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DocMoye
thank you for sharing the next, much happier stage in your daughters life with us Lorraine.
LindsD no advice im afraid but I do sympathise.
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Sep 2019
3:17pm, 25 Sep 2019
10,035 posts
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mrs shanksi
^what Carp said x
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Sep 2019
10:52am, 26 Sep 2019
29,622 posts
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LindsD
Mixed meeting at school. Teacher obviously thinks we don't enforce boundaries. Felt talked down to and attacked. But glad that school know the extent of what is happening at home. School behaviour is much better. Teacher listened to our descriptions and said (in her non-medical but experienced with childcare opinion) that she suspects bipolar or depression. The bipolar thing freaked me out. She's going to involve safeguarding and we are probably looking at CAMHS after the counselling. Feel totally unable to cope and very scared. And tired.
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Sep 2019
11:06am, 26 Sep 2019
30,175 posts
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DocMoye
sounds like a shock Linds, but good to hear that the school have listened to you and are taking some steps to help. The unknown is always scary, there are lots of people on here who i know will offer you support through their first hand experience.
Im thinking of you and happy to be a listening ear through the next steps
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Sep 2019
11:19am, 26 Sep 2019
43,283 posts
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Velociraptor
No wonder you're scared and tired, Linds  CAMHS may be a reasonable and reassuring source of further support and advice, especially if the suggestion of a serious enduring mental illness like bipolar affective disorder has (irresponsibly!) been introduced; it isn't a threat. Apart from anything else, depression is quite common in teenagers, sometimes presents atypically, and deserves and responds to appropriate treatment which can only be offered through CAMHS services.
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Sep 2019
11:28am, 26 Sep 2019
17,717 posts
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Carpathius
It's wonderful to hear her progress Lorraine 
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