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ChrisHB Oct 2019 5:55pm, 28 Oct 2019 18,453 posts	0 ChrisHB I am spending my time at the moment composing a letter to the church leadership saying that I am leaving. It needs to be bland to cause no offence, but firm enough to exclude any discussion. When the deed is done I may write a blog on the subject.
jda Oct 2019 5:56pm, 28 Oct 2019 5,736 posts	0 jda What you have written there (1st sentence) would seem adequate to me. Never put down anything more in writing than you have to. Also works for job resignation letters etc. Not that you need to "leave" unless you hold a formal position, surely?
LindsD Oct 2019 5:57pm, 28 Oct 2019 30,371 posts	0 LindsD Gosh, that sounds a difficult letter to write.
Velociraptor Oct 2019 6:02pm, 28 Oct 2019 43,669 posts	0 Velociraptor [Flashbacks to my mother raging at me for sometimes not going to church and saying, "You might as well lift your lines," which was C of S speak for leaving the church. The same mother who, when she had discovered lawn bowls and Sunday fixtures, decided that she didn't want the sort of God who cared if you hardly ever went to church. I think her change of mindset was actually provoked by women being allowed to be church elders.]
ChrisHB Oct 2019 6:52pm, 28 Oct 2019 18,454 posts	0 ChrisHB It's two lines at the moment plus a discussion of how I think my responsibilities might be handed on.
LazyDaisy Oct 2019 7:13pm, 28 Oct 2019 28,132 posts	0 LazyDaisy If you are leaving, Chris, is it necessary to add the bit about what happens to your responsibilities? (Obviously I have no idea what they are and I'm sure your intention is to be helpful, but basically, I'm with jda, just say the basic thing that needs to be said and leave it at that? (I also appreciate that you didn't come on the O-50s thread for letter-writing advice Will remove my beak from your business )
ChrisHB Oct 2019 8:03pm, 28 Oct 2019 18,455 posts	0 ChrisHB I don't want to burn any boats, or, to change the metaphor to a deceptively close one, to make big waves.
TeeBee Oct 2019 10:16pm, 28 Oct 2019 5,409 posts	0 TeeBee I think many/most church communities are amazing, including my parents' community. I often think parkruns communities are developing in a similar manner (weekly official get together with numerous offshoots of activity and support). My issue with church communities is that I simply don't believe in the fundamental premise of a god. So however much I admire the love and support they provide, I simply can't be part of it. Which is my loss.
LindsD Oct 2019 10:46pm, 28 Oct 2019 30,375 posts	0 LindsD That pretty much sums up how I feel. Better than I could.
Angus Clydesdale Oct 2019 11:02pm, 28 Oct 2019 15,718 posts	0 Angus Clydesdale The Kirk, round here, is suffering the same problems as in many communities. We went a lot when we first came back, but as the kids grew and there was no provision for them we drifted into other things. I now support the Kirk and community by leading a very successful Scout troop in the village. I suspect that, like NE, I found more relevance when deployed.