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Feb 2012
2:16pm, 2 Feb 2012
2,411 posts
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SarahWoo
RD - the only grandparent who's capable is coming with us! I'm tempted to make her go and stay with her father but that might be a bit too cruel and he's very unreliable.
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Feb 2012
2:40pm, 2 Feb 2012
7,361 posts
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runner duck
would the threat of it work to persuade her to come with you?
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Feb 2012
3:26pm, 2 Feb 2012
2,414 posts
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SarahWoo
It might but she's a pig-headed little so-and-so. Can't imagine where she gets it from! 
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Feb 2012
3:51pm, 2 Feb 2012
19,167 posts
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Velociraptor
I'm making my kids stay with their father when they don't want to come on holiday with us in June. He's unreliable, it's probably borderline neglect, but the kids are more than capable of getting their own meals, putting themselves to bed, and keeping themselves safe.
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Feb 2012
4:31pm, 2 Feb 2012
66,630 posts
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santababy
Just read through all this. After being told i had the perfect child all my life he turned into a nightmare around 14, weirdly not in house. Still cleaned, tidied like he always did, all the trouble was when he was out. I had rough 2 yrs but he came through other side and went back to being the perfect boy again.
I read up a fair bit about teenagers, i couldnt understand why someone could suddenly be like that. Lots to do with hormones unfortunately.
Feel for anyone going through it.
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Feb 2012
4:37pm, 2 Feb 2012
2,417 posts
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SarahWoo
V'rap - I think that's going to have to be the solution but it's going to be a battle .....
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Feb 2012
5:40pm, 2 Feb 2012
691 posts
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activeight
Just caught up on this thread.
My eldest two now 18 and 17 decided to live full time with their dad almost 2 years ago, because I had rules and bundaries and he didn't. Fortunately my daughter (17) is now quite a nice person. Still parties all the time, does the bare minimum at college and works p/t to finance her social life involving alot of alcohol. My 18 y/o son on the other hand never visits, well about 5 times over that period, didn't even bother with a birthday card on sunday. He managed a very simple text!
My 13 year old daugher, well I had a phone call from school about 2 weeks ago saying she had been caught smoking, but the school are more concerned about the kids she's hanging out with. About 2 or 3 years older and none of them very desirable. I then got grief from one of her friends parents because I grounded her and wouldn't allow her to go on a pre-planned spa day with the other parents child. She really didn't get it and said it would ruin her daughters treat! I offered to pay for my daughters place, stating that she could take one of her other friends.
My step daughter is only 9 and only stays weekends and isn't a horrible teenager yet!
So Trin, I think its normal for most to some degree.
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Feb 2012
4:47pm, 8 Feb 2012
3,063 posts
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Shin-Twigs
Hi can I have some advice please?
My teenage boy (18 in July) has just piped up that in 1/2 term (he's doing A levels) he wants to go and visit a "friend" in Scotland (we live in Kent). He wants to go saturday to wednesday - taking the coach.
Friend is a girl living at home, parents have said its ok. Its the first time I've heard of this friend, he says they have been web cam chatting and message chatting for a year (met her through a teen forum).
I obviously have reservations! He doesn't tend to bring friends home he is very secretive about them normally.
I wonder what is for the best here. I was out and about at 17 doing my own thing, so I'm a hypocrite if I don't let him go, but my instinct is to say no, because its such a long way away.
any advice appreciated.
L
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Feb 2012
4:50pm, 8 Feb 2012
66,685 posts
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santababy
He's more than old enough to go i reckon. got to put thr trust in him to get him to then confide in you i reckon
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Feb 2012
4:55pm, 8 Feb 2012
568 posts
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Mark J
Let him go, old enough now. Give him some space and trust, then it's down to him to keep that trust with you. Don't shoot him before he's comitted a crime.
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