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Jul 2018
6:25am, 3 Jul 2018
821 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Oh dear Chris, I hope the antibiotics kick in quickly.
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Jul 2018
7:45am, 3 Jul 2018
23,055 posts
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LazyDaisy
Oh dear Chris but good that she has the a-b's now.
I am increasingly concerned about my mother's residency at the care home. They make a point of saying that they do not cater for severe dementia cases.
Yet again she has had a day of complete confusion about the time of day. Apparently she got up at 2am, and was dressed and demanding her breakfast. They pointed out that it was still dark, so night time, but she was adamant that it was dark because the clouds were blocking the sun. At the moment they are able to persuade her back to bed but this is part of why she thinks it's weeks rather than a couple of days when I'm away for the weekend. I worry that they are going to get to the point where they say they can no longer manage her.
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Jul 2018
8:17am, 3 Jul 2018
822 posts
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Little Miss Happy
If I remember correctly your mother doesn't have a dementia diagnosis Daisy? If not I think it's worth looking at getting one (if it is dementia) as it would have implications for her care (the meds can help manage symptoms and slow deterioration) and her funding.
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Jul 2018
8:25am, 3 Jul 2018
14,805 posts
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Carpathius
I hope she's improving Chris, an infection and this heat are not a good mix.
Daisy, how worrying  Can you talk to the care home manager about the future? Since she's already living there, they might be a lot more accommodating than if she was a potential resident.
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Jul 2018
9:00am, 3 Jul 2018
16,871 posts
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ChrisHB
The thing is, a home is staffed to meet some needs but not others. Where my mum is has a residential wing and a bed-ridden wing, but isn't able to have people with dementia.
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Jul 2018
9:41am, 3 Jul 2018
23,056 posts
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LazyDaisy
Yes I think getting some sort of diagnosis might be helpful. I need to discuss it with my sister (not the Swansea one - no point) when she gets back from her three week holiday.
OH has booked three weeks off work in August and we're planning to spend it all at our seaside house. However I can't see how I can leave mum for that length of time
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Jul 2018
11:39am, 3 Jul 2018
823 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Daisy - if her perception of time is as bad as you think she won't know whether you've not visited for a day or a week, you need some 'me' time.
Chris is correct, advanced dementia needs specialist skills.
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Jul 2018
11:43am, 3 Jul 2018
16,874 posts
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ChrisHB
MIL is somewhat better today but still desperately weak.
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Jul 2018
10:04am, 4 Jul 2018
3,143 posts
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Fragile Do Not Bend
Yes LD, you need to consider your own wellbeing too.
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Jul 2018
10:49am, 4 Jul 2018
23,070 posts
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LazyDaisy
Just back from seeing mum. I reckon she could be heading for hospitalization for dehydration. The home are concerned and are keeping a fluid chart but she is being very difficult about keeping her fluid levels up. She makes a face and shakes her head when I say she may not realise that age affects our perception of thirst. Her day/night confusion is very pronounced which the home and I think has a lot to do with the dehydration.
Why does she have to be such a bloody difficult woman?
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