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LazyDaisy Jun 2018 4:45pm, 29 Jun 2018 23,020 posts	Quote Pin LazyDaisy Quite right too WS. When I took my mum to Swansea on Wednesday (temperature 30*) K endedup having to drive home with the AC turned off because no matter how I adjusted the vents and controls, my mum complained of the cold. I was nearly comatose by the time we got home.
Wriggling Snake Jun 2018 5:32pm, 29 Jun 2018 18,968 posts	Quote Pin Wriggling Snake I think he remembers me saying 'rain' or 'cold' for most of the last 4 years when he asks me about the weather.
jdarun Jun 2018 6:00pm, 29 Jun 2018 2,932 posts	Quote Pin jdarun That's great to see TR - enjoy your good fortune and happy birthday x 2 to your parents!
TomahawkMike Jun 2018 6:25pm, 29 Jun 2018 1,375 posts	Quote Pin TomahawkMike In an earlier comment I expressed my ire about the lack of support from the local holy person given my in-laws had gone to church multiple times a week for 87 years. After an incident this week I went up to the church to see what other help might be available from someone i think my FiL might listen to (as I assume churches have some sort of community support). It transpires that he has been offering to come around and give MiL communion and so forth for about a year and FiL has been saying no!! I enlightened the chap and he has been around today to see them and is back tomorrow (one front of many that we are working on). Been a difficult couple of weeks despite the carers starting.
Lip Gloss Jun 2018 6:54pm, 29 Jun 2018 30,111 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Great photo. Had a quick phone call from my sister to say my dad's neighbour phoned her - dad been taken into hospital today so don't know the ins and outs yet. Seemingly the house is a tip as well
LazyDaisy Jun 2018 7:24pm, 29 Jun 2018 23,022 posts	Quote Pin LazyDaisy Oh dear LG, and he's a long way away from you, isn't he. Hope you get more news soon. I'm so not surprised to hear that about the church people, Tomahawk. Oldies are quite resistant to letting people see just how in need of help they are. Maybe it's how they got to be oldies, having that determined and independent streak.
Lip Gloss Jun 2018 7:27pm, 29 Jun 2018 30,113 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Yeah 500 miles LD, sister and brother and myself all up here
DocMoye Jun 2018 7:52pm, 29 Jun 2018 22,864 posts	Quote Pin DocMoye That’s very worrying for you LG and very difficult with the distance.
Carpathius Jun 2018 10:46pm, 29 Jun 2018 14,771 posts	Quote Pin Carpathius Hugs LG, I hope he's out again soon. TM, that's good news.
Little Miss Happy Jun 2018 6:06am, 30 Jun 2018 819 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy I hope that things aren't too bad LG. Well done for persevering Mike.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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