Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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HappyG(rrr)
HappyG(rrr)
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11:04am, 14 Sep 2024
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@northernslowcoach Thanks and Lizzie and Little Miss Happy. GP is amazing and did pop out to see how she is. We might try Macmillan. It's really just to understand what she should expect, will it get worse or should she expect symptoms to change etc. :-) G
Bazoaxe
Bazoaxe
14 Sep
11:16am, 14 Sep 2024
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HG sorry I missed your post from the other day and that does sound difficult. We are finding the same as MiL is too old and frail. She has had great care, but doesnt have any diagnosis based on proper tests as they are deemed to much of a risk

Mil was a poor soul when we visited last night and she has deteriorated a little, albeit based on the past when we go in tomorrow she is just as likely to be much better

We just await the social worker getting in touch to see what happens next and also how BiL is going to play this. The head nurse and physiotherapist have both stated surely BiL will speak to us to sort things out. We are not so sure.
Bazoaxe
Bazoaxe
15 Sep
6:46pm, 15 Sep 2024
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Not good today. It seems since our visit on Friday night MiL has refused food and water. She was on a fluid drip overnight.

She was unable to communicate today although we did get her to drink a little. The nurses say she had perked up today so I wonder what she was like yesterday. I am surprised they hadn’t called us.
Corrah
Corrah
15 Sep
6:53pm, 15 Sep 2024
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Corrah
Thinking of you Baz x
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
15 Sep
7:15pm, 15 Sep 2024
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Lip Gloss
Hard one Baz x
LindsD
LindsD
15 Sep
7:26pm, 15 Sep 2024
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LindsD
Oh no. I'm sorry.
Ness
Ness
15 Sep
7:27pm, 15 Sep 2024
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Ness
Thinking of you
macca 53
macca 53
15 Sep
7:56pm, 15 Sep 2024
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macca 53
So sad Bazo, thinking of you ((()))
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
15 Sep
10:56pm, 15 Sep 2024
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Little Miss Happy
Sorry to hear that Baz. No reason to call you really especially if she’s having fluids through a drip.
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
16 Sep
7:43am, 16 Sep 2024
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Mandymoo
Thinking of you Baz xx

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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