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Dec 2023
1:41pm, 19 Dec 2023
72,851 posts
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Merry Lip Gloss
We really thought my dad would hate and resent being in a nursing home but to be honest every time we saw him he looked happy enough. When he could no longer speak he did spend a lot of his time in his own room although they would take him through to the day room for company
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Dec 2023
1:43pm, 19 Dec 2023
6,802 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Thanks macca - that brought a much needed smile to my face. 
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Dec 2023
7:53pm, 19 Dec 2023
2,468 posts
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CK2
Ah yes. Our GP did that too when Dad was dying. And he came to see us after Dad died, too.
Dad’s GP visited once and invited my mum to see him after dad died, although she struggled to make an appointment.
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Dec 2023
9:23pm, 19 Dec 2023
7,197 posts
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ThorntonRunner
OK it was late 2021 so covid was an issue but dad(92)'s gp refused to do a home visit so we had to take dad to the surgery - he struggled to walk from the car to the consulting room and back again after and was totally knackered by it. Doctor also refused to discuss a second issue (one issue per consultation rule) and apparently seemed more interested in checking the time. This was about three months before dad died.
Not impressed.
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Dec 2023
9:36pm, 19 Dec 2023
26,118 posts
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Bazoaxe
The carers today reported blood in the sanitary pads and commode. The gp was informed and called back. We have had this blood thing a few times and been checked over and the result is always no reason other than an infection. Antibiotics hopefully see a quick turnaround. Various blood tests have also been arranged and old results revisited.
GP also said she had raised the topic of going into care and was left knowing in no uncertain terms that was not a welcome suggestion.
Oh and one of her old school friends just called to see if she can pop in tomorrow. I said it may not be wise. I wouldn’t want a 90yo friend to be faced with the situation we found at the weekend. Neither would MiL.
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Dec 2023
6:25am, 20 Dec 2023
6,804 posts
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Little Miss Happy
At least the GP is more aware of your MiL's wishes Baz and therefore the obstacles.
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Dec 2023
7:29am, 20 Dec 2023
2,469 posts
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CK2
Good to see the GP raising it Baz, but what a challenge for you!
That is a shocking response TR! Dad’s GP was pleasant but not awfully efficient as he missed a melanoma until it was pretty serious a couple of years before dad died.
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Dec 2023
8:47am, 20 Dec 2023
4,688 posts
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Ally-C
Just Looking at my mum’s bank account & she spends on average over £100 a day. HITNOF can a near 85 year old manage that?
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Dec 2023
8:52am, 20 Dec 2023
37,208 posts
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Ness
Wow!
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Dec 2023
8:55am, 20 Dec 2023
22,902 posts
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I saw 3Ms come sailing in
That's a bit scary, Ally-C. Do you have the ability to see & challenge anything that looks odd?
I know my Mum used to buy all sorts of cr@p from Damart and other "targeted-at-the-elderly" mail order catalogues. She was also paying/donating surprising sums to a funeral plan and the People's Postcode lottery.
At that point we couldn't stop her buying since she was broadly speaking still capable of making (bad) financial decisions for herself, but we did start hiding the catalogues from her! And now she's lost capacity and I've educated my sister in the odd of winning such lotteries - her regular outgoings look a lot more manageable.
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