Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD Dec 2023 8:07pm, 17 Dec 2023 65,547 posts	0 LindsD My Mum doesn't call me either.
Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) Dec 2023 8:45pm, 17 Dec 2023 48,921 posts	0 Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) My mum was awful today. Just a cold, but with COPD and lung cancer it really debilitated her. Lots of good chat about care options. My missus thinks this will be her last Christmas but would surprise me if she was around for another 5 years! G
EvilPixie Dec 2023 8:50pm, 17 Dec 2023 49,850 posts	0 EvilPixie Hugs happy I hope mum is comfortable
LindsD Dec 2023 8:58pm, 17 Dec 2023 65,549 posts	0 LindsD ((HappyG))
Mandymoo Dec 2023 9:05pm, 17 Dec 2023 17,960 posts	0 Mandymoo Hugs Happy
Ness Dec 2023 9:14pm, 17 Dec 2023 37,129 posts	0 Ness Hugs Happy
Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) Dec 2023 9:39pm, 17 Dec 2023 48,923 posts	0 Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) *wouldn't surprise me (she's a strong critter!) Thanks folks. X G
Heinzster Dec 2023 10:18pm, 17 Dec 2023 2,340 posts	0 Heinzster I feel your pain about negativity in the older generation. My mum cannot find joy in anything. Her neighbour has significant dementia and has now (without my being consulted, how dare they!) gone into a care setting. Mum is livid as 'her daughter is just doing it so she can go on holiday'. I told her to wind her neck in and stop trying to cause trouble in an already difficult situation for the family and she is furious with me for interfering.
Heinzster Dec 2023 10:18pm, 17 Dec 2023 2,341 posts	0 Heinzster Sorry, autocorrect. Should read without my Mum being consulted
LindsD Dec 2023 10:30pm, 17 Dec 2023 65,551 posts	0 LindsD That's almost exactly what my Mum said about her next door neighbour in a similar situation. Apparently the daughter was 'really mean to her mother'.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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