Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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CK2
CK2
Dec 2023
8:58pm, 20 Dec 2023
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I’d be tempted to suggest she had more quality time with him decorum! I don’t know how you stand it!

My mum also spends way too much, a lot on over generous gifts for others. My brother and I are going to try and see her accounts to ascertain the extent of the problem.
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
Dec 2023
5:04pm, 21 Dec 2023
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Mum used to waste so much money on gifts etc. She used to save a Christmas club and spend so much on tat. I took over her Christmas shopping snd everyone was very pleased 😂
Ally-C
Ally-C
Dec 2023
5:07pm, 21 Dec 2023
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Went to see my ma today. She said what did you think of Alistair Darling dying? I could cry about it just thinking about it.

I said your brother died a month ago was that not worse? She said no. I could’ve smashed my head off the table there & then. A fecking lunatic.
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
Dec 2023
5:15pm, 21 Dec 2023
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😮
I’m sorry
LindsD
LindsD
Dec 2023
5:29pm, 21 Dec 2023
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That sounds tough, Ally
Ness
Ness
Dec 2023
5:30pm, 21 Dec 2023
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That's really tough, Ally-C! :(
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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(((Ally)))
CK2
CK2
Dec 2023
7:30pm, 21 Dec 2023
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Oh Ally! (())
macca 53
macca 53
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7:47pm, 21 Dec 2023
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Sorry Ally ((()))
CK2
CK2
Dec 2023
7:49am, 24 Dec 2023
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Sending thoughts to everyone on this thread at this time, which can be particularly harsh for many with the focus on family. We’re off to mum’s later and will spend Christmas Eve and Day with her, so that should be challenging and lovely in equal measures.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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