Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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CK2 Oct 2023 7:29pm, 3 Oct 2023 2,299 posts	0 CK2 What they said Vixx ^^^
Vixx Oct 2023 7:48pm, 3 Oct 2023 1,987 posts	0 Vixx I feel like I am letting her down, but she also makes me so angry. My wife deserves to have some time with me and she even begrudges that.
Lip Gloss Oct 2023 7:57pm, 3 Oct 2023 71,567 posts	0 Lip Gloss You are hardly letting her down by having a life outside her needs and wants. Take yourself and your wife away and enjoy it.
LindsD Oct 2023 8:04pm, 3 Oct 2023 64,253 posts	0 LindsD The fact that you feel like that shows what a caring person you are but people always say to me 'you can't pour from an empty cup'. You need to look after yourself, and that also means looking after your relationship.
jabberknit Oct 2023 8:10pm, 3 Oct 2023 4,439 posts	0 jabberknit Hugs to everyone struggling with difficult situations at the moment.
Little Miss Happy Oct 2023 10:53pm, 3 Oct 2023 6,684 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Vice - I think you care too much. Admirable as it is there’s only so much you have to give and you need to choose who gets it. FiL on final approach. Doesn’t sound as though he’ll last the night.
ThorntonRunner Oct 2023 10:55pm, 3 Oct 2023 7,041 posts	0 ThorntonRunner ((lmh))
Little Miss Happy Oct 2023 11:25pm, 3 Oct 2023 6,685 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Sorry - silly autocorrect- Vixx.
EvilPixie Oct 2023 5:26am, 4 Oct 2023 47,497 posts	0 EvilPixie {LMH} Take care
Lip Gloss Oct 2023 7:16am, 4 Oct 2023 71,576 posts	0 Lip Gloss LMH, hopefully you got a sleep.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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