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GimmeMedals Sep 2021 7:05pm, 14 Sep 2021 21,327 posts	Quote Pin GimmeMedals I heard Peter Jones (Dragon's Den) talking on Radio 2 this afternoon about the word "failure". He suggested it should be banished from our language and replaced with "feedback". The idea being that saying you've failed at something is negative but what you've actually done is learned something that will help you do it better next time. Reframing the negative with positive language is effective, as long as you can convince yourself to believe it.
Chrisull Sep 2021 7:50pm, 14 Sep 2021 18,395 posts	Quote Pin Chrisull The New Yorker is great - ha that sounds like an accurate summary.
Sharkie Sep 2021 7:55pm, 14 Sep 2021 18,600 posts	Quote Pin Sharkie I’ve ordered it secondhand but ‘very good’ from World of Books (along with Viv Albertine’s second memoir which I somehow missed at the time)
Chrisull Sep 2021 8:00pm, 14 Sep 2021 18,396 posts	Quote Pin Chrisull Oh heck, her first is still on my TBR list, I really should catch up!
halfpint Sep 2021 9:32pm, 14 Sep 2021 35,704 posts	Quote Pin halfpint GM I’ve been telling QP for years ‘there’s no such thing as failure only learning opportunities’. It’s linked with Carol Dweck’s growth mindset stuff. Worth a look from a sporting perspective. EP I have found that having a good understanding of the stress response is helpful in itself. When you are experiencing stress resources are diverted from your cortex (thinking part of the brain) to the limbic system (emotional). You can’t think yourself out of a fight or flight moment. The best way to regulate in that moment is through focusing on the basics - breath, senses, rhythm. So focusing on your breathing or your stroke can help to regulate you.
EvilPixie Sep 2021 9:51pm, 14 Sep 2021 27,909 posts	Quote Pin EvilPixie Thanks hp that makes sense
HappyG(rrr) Sep 2021 9:59pm, 14 Sep 2021 39,693 posts	Quote Pin HappyG(rrr) Added to watch list. Fascinating stuff. Nothing clever to add though. Soz. G
LindsD Sep 2021 10:10pm, 14 Sep 2021 49,608 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Brenee Brown
LindsD Sep 2021 10:11pm, 14 Sep 2021 49,609 posts	Quote Pin LindsD (OH and a good friend recommend. Seeing imperfection as both inevitable and a growth opportunity)
jacdaw Sep 2021 11:01pm, 14 Sep 2021 3,366 posts	Quote Pin jacdaw (When I saw this thread I also immediately thought of drug users and weird shops full of bongs and giant oatmeal rizlas, and copies of the furry freak brothers and fat freddies cat. I apologise for lowering the tone. And being quite old.)