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Jul 2019
8:06pm, 22 Jul 2019
14,986 posts
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Bazoaxe
So kit seems MiL spent the day on the toilet hence why she didnt respond to any phone calls. She did answer the door when the GP showed up and he doesnt seem concerned.
She also modified her story on these voices which she told the GOP she only hears on a Saturday night and ignores the fact she twice asked my daughter if she could hear the same voices.
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Jul 2019
4:56pm, 23 Jul 2019
29,276 posts
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DocMoye
There are so many comments on here that I relate to from when I looked after my dad in his final years. The resentment, the guilt, the helplessness.
Occasionally there would be something simple that would make him very happy, such as buying him an ice cream. It is from pictures of these moments that I remember his last months and the negative memories gradually fade.
My suggestion is to take some pictures of those simple moments, however mundane they seem, having tea together, watching the telly, sitting in the sunshine. You don't need the picture now but in the months and years that follow they may become precious.
My dad
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Jul 2019
5:02pm, 23 Jul 2019
1,516 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Great advice Doc. I said the same to the family about my FiL at xmas - not that anyone listened unfortunately.
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Jul 2019
5:04pm, 23 Jul 2019
10,528 posts
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Ness
Good advice, Doc. Thanks x
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Jul 2019
5:19pm, 23 Jul 2019
16,424 posts
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EvilPixie
How lovely
Funeral tomorrow as the temperature rises we'll be in black
Hmm
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Jul 2019
5:21pm, 23 Jul 2019
35,125 posts
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Lip Gloss
Thinking of you tomorrow. Xx
Unfortunately I'm in black every day for work and with flushes every hour it's not good
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Jul 2019
5:35pm, 23 Jul 2019
2,933 posts
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jabberknit
Lovely idea, Doc.
Hope tomorrow goes as well as it can for you and your family, EP.
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Jul 2019
5:45pm, 23 Jul 2019
1,517 posts
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Little Miss Happy
We are forecast a cooler day tomorrow with it being really hot again on Thursday EP so hopefully you'll get the same.
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Jul 2019
6:31pm, 23 Jul 2019
7,464 posts
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leaguefreak
What a great idea DocMoye.
For now my mum seems to be managing at home. Hoping it lasts a while but trying to warm her up to the idea of carers.
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Jul 2019
8:21pm, 23 Jul 2019
17,419 posts
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Carpathius
That is good advice Doc -and that photo of your dad is so lovely 
Took MiL to the seaside today. She's still full of complaints about the staff/other residents when she phones (often) but today she kept saying how lovely it was when they all took a coach trip to the seaside a couple of weeks ago. She thinks it was everyone "from the office" rather than where she lives but that's OK.
She also kept saying she needed to get new shoes, about ten seconds after saying how much she liked the ones we bought on Thursday.
We had a nice sit on the sea front and ice creams
One of her favourite carers said (jokingly) to bring her back some rock. MiL said it was a bit awkward as she'd like to get her some but didn't want to upset other staff. I suggested we get a bag of little short bits so everyone could have some. She wouldn't because then the people she didn't like might have some!
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