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westmoors Jun 2018 7:42am, 20 Jun 2018 2,627 posts	0 westmoors That made me smile CK2. In the latter years before having to be moved into the care home, my grandparents 'adopted' a neighbours cat!
ThorntonRunner Jun 2018 11:22pm, 28 Jun 2018 1,735 posts	0 ThorntonRunner I realise I'm incredibly lucky in that my parents are in relative good health and capably independent, although I know that can quickly change. My son took them to the local garden centre today as it was mum's 94th birthday. Tomorrow is dad's 90th birthday:
Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs) Jun 2018 6:45am, 29 Jun 2018 26,854 posts	0 Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs) Happy birthday to both.
LazyDaisy Jun 2018 7:05am, 29 Jun 2018 23,014 posts	0 LazyDaisy Happy birthday to them both
LindsD Jun 2018 7:55am, 29 Jun 2018 23,695 posts	0 LindsD That's so nice
DocMoye Jun 2018 9:20am, 29 Jun 2018 22,856 posts	0 DocMoye Congratulations to them both. Speaking of birthdays my mother in law ( Alzheimer’s ) sent birthday cards to my twin boys for their birthdays yesterday. In one she had but from Nana and grandad and the other fromauntie Pamela and Uncle Malcolm. ..... I think father in law may need to supervise this task a little more
Carpathius Jun 2018 10:45am, 29 Jun 2018 14,766 posts	0 Carpathius That is an absolutely wonderful photo Oh dear Doc. MiL is not taking her medication. It's been in dossett boxes but she has no idea how to use them. Unfortunately she's been telling us she does, so we only found out the other day. I arranged to ring her night and morning to talk her through it. She's also definitely not eating. We really need to have a carer come in to make her some food and help her with her medication, but she's absolutely against it.
Little Miss Happy Jun 2018 11:02am, 29 Jun 2018 818 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Lovely photograph. I hope your boys took it ok Doc. We've had to sort/supervise FiL as MiL's birthday today. Sorry you have more MiL stress to deal with Carp.
LazyDaisy Jun 2018 4:37pm, 29 Jun 2018 23,019 posts	0 LazyDaisy Doc I have a similar tale from this morning. For months now she has been asking 'when is son2 moving?' At last, I can tell her 'next Wednesday.' So I got her a choice of New Home cards, she chose one...and wrote 'To son2, Happy birthday, love Nanny.' I suppose it was a new thought too far
Wriggling Snake Jun 2018 4:40pm, 29 Jun 2018 18,966 posts	0 Wriggling Snake The old boy is coming up North on sunday. He's packed a jumper.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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