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Jun 2023
9:56am, 12 Jun 2023
62,242 posts
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LindsD
Thanks all. The one that I was taking her to she says she definitely doesn't want to go. OH is taking her to one and SD to the other. But you are right; can influence the decision either way.
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Jun 2023
10:15am, 12 Jun 2023
9,756 posts
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TeeBee
ds hasn't applied for uni, and at present has no intention of doing so. Academically he's very bright, but I admire him for going against the expectations of his (academically minded) peer group and (even more academically driven) school. Our deal was he got his A levels which will act as his insurance policy, and let him explore his options. (Now fingers crossed his A levels will give him the safety net that we had hoped - the lack of revision for these exams has been quite startling  )
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Jun 2023
11:40am, 12 Jun 2023
5,618 posts
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Groundhog
Positive news from our daughter, L, regarding her anorexia, which we have been living with since shortly before lockdown. She decided to see the GP and has got a referral to an adult eating disorder unit. However, she's worried about starting on this route and how it might impact her studies - a 12 week course is the first step along the way, though we don't know what the course actually involves, group therapy of some sort and eating meals at the unit? We haven't been told when the course might start, only that there is space on it for her.
I blogged more about it today.
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Jun 2023
1:55pm, 12 Jun 2023
7,925 posts
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Pothunter
Such a positive step for her GH
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Jun 2023
3:47pm, 19 Jun 2023
21,348 posts
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larkim
Not strictly a teenager any more, but after kicking the subject into the long grass whilst he went through children's medical services, we've now got a date for the open heart surgery on my 20yo (a young man with Downs Syndrome) in the middle of next week.
After being blasé about it for the last few weeks, I'm now finding it's occupying more and more thoughts.
Anyone had offspring go through a major (elective!) surgical procedure with any tips on how not to go insane over the next 10 days worrying that everything I do is in the context of a 1/40-ish chance of a very negative outcome for him (anything from stroke, additional heart issues, through to death, to be blunt)?
For the moment, just making sure I give him a hug every time I see him and broadly refuse him nothing that he asks for (within reason!) is all I can do.
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Jun 2023
3:54pm, 19 Jun 2023
28,730 posts
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Serendippily
Gosh that is asking a lot of your powers of positivity and calm breathing. Do try and keep using any outlet you can find so both of you minimise any avoidable stress
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Jun 2023
4:12pm, 19 Jun 2023
2,158 posts
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poppyH
Just catching up.
GH that is a real positive.
Larkim, tricky one, a certain amount of anxiety is to be expected with major surgery. I think your approach sounds positive, what does he think about the op?
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Jun 2023
4:39pm, 19 Jun 2023
7,952 posts
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Pothunter
A tricky one Larks, and much easier for us to offer advice from afar than to be in your shoes!
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Jun 2023
4:49pm, 19 Jun 2023
357 posts
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GetOutTheDoor
Best wishes Larkim.
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Jun 2023
4:51pm, 19 Jun 2023
13,143 posts
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Meeps
Best wishes from me too Larkim
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