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Dec 2011
12:45pm, 2 Dec 2011
750 posts
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The Duckinator
May I just interject to say not all of us young'uns are bad 
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Dec 2011
12:58pm, 2 Dec 2011
9,212 posts
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sheri3004
Hmmmmmmmmm *looks around for Mother Duck to verify above*
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Dec 2011
12:59pm, 2 Dec 2011
3,489 posts
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Trin
I'm not saying that at all...
and I'm sure you're not
It's just that I'm having a particularly rough time with my teens and I needed some reassurance that it was 'relatively' normal before I drive myself off a cliff for being the worst mother in the universe
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Dec 2011
1:00pm, 2 Dec 2011
28,695 posts
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Hendo
Actually my sister is the worst mother in the universe, so it's fine.
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Dec 2011
1:04pm, 2 Dec 2011
18,474 posts
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Raptors Claws are coming to town
I'll warn you, Meglet, Tink told me a couple of years ago that she would NEVER be a stroppy teenager. A few months later, she WAS one.
My son, who'll be 18 in March, hasn't really done the teenage behaviour thing. Or maybe we've never noticed because his autism has always been a bigger issue. He's a rule-abiding soul generally, likes praise and rewards and doesn't like conflict.
My oldest girl was extremely difficult until her mid-teens - I mean, difficult as in expulsions from school, spent two years in what's now called a PRU, endless verbal unpleasantness and sometimes physical violence, and there were times when I was awake for nights on end because I didn't trust her not to kill her siblings and torch the house. When my XH and I were threatened with legal proceedings if we didn't get her to school every day, using force if necessary, when she was 13, I contacted social services and asked that she be removed from the household to protect the rest of us. I was told that this could only be done if we actually battered her.
After that experience, and with the knowledge that she came through it despite the stress of her parents separating when she was 14, did very well academically, and is now a fundamentally good person with bright prospects, the normal-ish teenage stuff I get from the younger two girls (15 and 13) is just a minor domestic inconvenience.
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Dec 2011
1:10pm, 2 Dec 2011
18,475 posts
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Raptors Claws are coming to town
When I'm giving advice to parents of teenagers, it tends to be that while they must set boundaries and have clear rules and be prepared for their teenagers to hate them and rant at them sometimes, it's just as important to have a very light hand when it comes to the stuff that isn't all that important. It makes me squirm to see a parent getting in their children's faces all the time about things that don't matter much in the big picture or that the young'un would have got round to doing a lot sooner if they hadn't been nagged into digging their heels in.
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Dec 2011
1:13pm, 2 Dec 2011
12,119 posts
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Pestomum
^^ that's it in a nutshell.
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Dec 2011
1:15pm, 2 Dec 2011
1,664 posts
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Clueless
I have 3 boys, and they have all behaved very differently, so I could not say that there is a fixed pattern of behaviour. I would just say that, there is some *behaviour* at some point. And this behaviour can be termed as age-appropiate. They have had to cope with a lot of stress over the last 3 years. That is no excuse for some of the behaviour. And there are stormy waters ahead. Not sure how that will affect them either.
I totally understand feeling like an unwanted visitor in my own home at times. But when it really matters, they usually come good these boys of mine.
This might sound very mamby pamby fawning clap-trap but, what all the boys really want and need to know is that they are doing alright, and are good blokes who I am proud of. It can be easy to end up in confrontation all the time, but really they respond really well to TLC. Not always easy when the house is a bomb site and you are being berated for having the audacity to remind them they need to get out of bed.
Brilliant idea for a thread Trin. Thank you
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Dec 2011
3:48pm, 2 Dec 2011
8,799 posts
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Meglet
Crikey V'rap, hadn't realised things had been that bad
The general consensus amongst my friends is that girls are worse than boys during teen years. Don't think I was a particularly difficult teen, I certainly didn't stay out late or drink or smoke, but I do remember thinking my parents were boring and embarrassing.
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Dec 2011
3:53pm, 2 Dec 2011
3,490 posts
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Trin
16 year old son just text me to say he's not coming home.... again.
He's done nothing that I asked him to do this week and his room stinks.
I've just been upstairs and filled two black bin bags with everything that was on his floor (told him in a reply to his text first) including electronics, clothes, rubbish, school books, cans, bottles, glasses, games, money etc
I've now told him that unless he starts doing things that I ask him, next time they will go straight into the bin outside
and breeeath....
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