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Jul 2018
9:22pm, 11 Jul 2018
6,787 posts
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Mandymoo
Oh LG - I don't understand why they get like that. Mum takes great pleasure in telling everyone that she never sees any of us - even though she does and is always at one of ours every Sunday for dinner. Like LD's mum, she can be so hurtful to. I made her a cake and her first words were "No wonder you are so far if you eat things like that"
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Jul 2018
9:25pm, 11 Jul 2018
13,237 posts
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Bazoaxe
There are so many similarities from many stories in here to my own experience.
Old age really is not very nice and something I dont think life prepares you for.
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Jul 2018
9:26pm, 11 Jul 2018
30,276 posts
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Lip Gloss
He thinks it's funny but it's just embarrassing.
I told often tell him home truths but I did tonight cause I was hurt that he kept it from us he was in for that length of time.
Hope you and Carp get things sorted with the GP.
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Jul 2018
9:42pm, 11 Jul 2018
23,155 posts
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LazyDaisy
 LG. I suppose as you get older needing help is a very difficult thing to admit to yourself because you feel things are only going to go one way, and you want to put it off for as long as possible. I just hope I remember that accepting help is a way to preserve quality of life rather than the beginning of the end, should I live to that sort of age.
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Jul 2018
9:47pm, 11 Jul 2018
16,904 posts
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ChrisHB
It really is a second infancy, isn't it? My grandson has just hit on the idea of saying that his mum is the worst mummy in the whole world but somehow that isn't hurtful.
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Jul 2018
9:47pm, 11 Jul 2018
13,239 posts
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Bazoaxe
I find myself hoping that I dont act the way of some of my elderly relatives if that stage comes to me
People want to help to make lives easier.
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Jul 2018
6:22am, 12 Jul 2018
832 posts
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Little Miss Happy
I'm sorry to hear that your dad doesn't seem to think you need to know that he's ill enough to be in hospital LG and is making his, and your life difficult by pushing people away.
Hope you can get the meds sorted without too much more stress Carp - you'd think it might have triggered some sort of alarm at the GP that your MiL hadn't been ordering her repeat script.
Right, so we all need to start practising accepting help from people when it's offered so that when we got older and more cantankerous it's a useful habit we've got in to
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Jul 2018
7:18am, 12 Jul 2018
2,946 posts
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jdarun
That's the thing I really don't understand. Most of our old relatives have in turn seen their older relatives decline. Does everyone forget, or is it just something that we generally can't help doing despite ourselves?
Though to be honest I don't know how widespread this cantankerous obstinacy is. Some of my elderly relatives are very good, and none are close to the level that some here are talking about. So maybe there is hope
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Jul 2018
7:49am, 12 Jul 2018
9,555 posts
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Badger
My folks don't really want to accept it when they're ill, because they worry it might be the last illness for them, but they're OK at accepting help (my dad has said several times that he regrets living so far away from his own parents when they were old, now that he realises how much support he's getting from us).
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Jul 2018
7:57am, 12 Jul 2018
3,159 posts
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Fragile Do Not Bend
I think when someone gets to that stage their focus narrows, and they move towards being only concerned with themselves and the present time. A sort of survival mode because that’s probably all that their brain can cope with.
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