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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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CK2
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That’s tough decorum. Good luck from here on.
Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr)
Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr)
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Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr)
Sorry for your loss decorum.
Garfield
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Sorry for your loss decorum. Take care.x
kaysdee
kaysdee
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Sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.
Corrah
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Condolences @decorum. Look after yourself.
christmasmental
christmasmental
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Our thoughts are with you & yours decorum.
LindsD
LindsD
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Hugs Decorum.

Glad it was OK Ally
macca 53
macca 53
Dec 2024
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Sorry for your loss @decorum
decorum
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Thanks all ~ to be honest, despite the massive amount he's left me/us to deal with, it's a huge relief. Not just that he's no longer having to deal with is frailties, but also that he was getting harder and harder to be around ...

And, importantly, his 'favourites' actually seem to now be coming round to and accepting that he was very different with them than with us ~ so much of the bad feeling within the family >might< actually dissipate now. Though I'll not be holding my breath 😉

Hugs to all, and ... be kind to yourselves 😀
3FrenchMs
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Dec 2024
8:28pm, 14 Dec 2024
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My condolences, @decorum. I'm coming to the conclusion that no matter the circumstances it's an "educational" time for those who remain. I hope things do go the way you hope.

Yesterday (was it only yesterday?) we saw the Registrar, collected a Death Certificate, visited the Funeral Director and arranged a time and date for the funeral! We were completely thrown when he offered us the 23rd December! But we can't all do that day so we're on with the 30th instead.

Last night we drove home, and today we've been trying to get set up for Christmas and arrange a coordinated return to the Island with everyone!

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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