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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Garfield
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Sorry for you and your mum's loss LindsD. Take care.x
DocM
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thinking of you LindsD

And so in other news, MIL funeral yesterday. all went smoothly. (as a recap FIL had been her main carer and looked after her at home for the last 5 years pausing his life to do so).

Funeral over, FIL went for a walk, fell over and has ruptured head of biceps and a black eye. .....I can see a future of further episodes as he tries to carry on where he left off 5 years ago.
EvilPixie
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Oh no! Hope he recovers quickly and can start to enjoy his new life
jda
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House sale completion day! Major celebrations here. Entirely coincidentally, BiL was visiting to pick up some stuff we'd been storing for him, so we were on our way out to lunch when the phone call came in confirming.

Even the longest darkest tunnel has light at the end of it :-)
EvilPixie
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Good news
Little Miss Happy
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Sorry to hear that DocM.

Good news jda.
Mandymoo
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Good news JDA
Bazoaxe
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I am so sorry Linds

HG - it really shows that the best bet is to stick the equivalent into an interest paying bank account or an ISA unless you know there is something that might lead to an earlier payout.
LindsD
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Thank you all. I'm with her now. She's OK

Great news jda bunting

Sorry to hear that, DocM. That's stressful.
Hibeedeb
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Sorry to hear that Linds. I guess it gets harder the older our parents get. My parents are 92 and 88 and living independently in a retirement residence. Their friends seem to die often, but as they say, that is one of the downsides of living into their late 80s/90s

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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