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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD
LindsD
3 Mar
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Hi Lana and welcome
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
3 Mar
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Welcome Lana. Lots of experience of dementia here.

McG - has she settled about not visiting FiL?
cackleberry
cackleberry
3 Mar
8:00pm, 3 Mar 2025
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Hi Lana.

My mum has dementia, it's a tough gig.

Talking of mum, she moves tomorrow into long term care.
My brother will see her on Weds, then I'll go down at the weekend.

As ever, we've had no updates for days, then suddenly it's all happening tomorrow.
LindsD
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Hope it goes well
McGoohan
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LMH - she tried to insist someone else went to visit FiL while she was in hospital but... no. With her coming out of hospital last night she will have gone in to see him today - it's now usually a lift from carers in the morning and a taxi home in the evening. The taxi company are getting a bit disgruntled though as she's never ready and insists on them waiting.
LindsD
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So Mum's best friend, who was given the last rites on 4th Feb, has had her feeding tube removed and the family have been told to say goodbye. It's Mum's birthday on Weds and I was going anyway so I'll go tomorrow night after pancakes. I will stay until Friday or I might bring her back here. Might possibly go next week again. Will definitely have to get her up North for the funeral.
CK2
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That sounds exhausting Linds. I hope it goes as well as it can.
LindsD
LindsD
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Thanks. Fitful night and woke early thinking about what I need to pack
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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Hope the move goes ok cackleberry.

That's a shame McG.

Remember to look after yourself too Linds.
LindsD
LindsD
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She died. Mum in pieces. Will be going after lunch.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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