Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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minardi 12 Feb 6:03pm, 12 Feb 2024 10,381 posts	0 minardi So sorry Jabberknit xx
ThorntonRunner 12 Feb 6:51pm, 12 Feb 2024 7,295 posts	0 ThorntonRunner So sorry jabberknit, but glad it was a peaceful leaving
EvilPixie 12 Feb 6:59pm, 12 Feb 2024 51,639 posts	0 EvilPixie So sorry jabberknit TR I hope you and your mum get the support you need x
Bazoaxe 12 Feb 7:07pm, 12 Feb 2024 26,346 posts	0 Bazoaxe I am sorry for your loss jabberknit
leaguefreak 12 Feb 7:30pm, 12 Feb 2024 12,261 posts	0 leaguefreak Sorry for your loss
poppyH 12 Feb 11:40pm, 12 Feb 2024 2,212 posts	0 poppyH Sorry to hear that jabberknit. Glad it was peaceful.
1step2far 13 Feb 12:17am, 13 Feb 2024 7,662 posts	0 1step2far So sorry JabberKnit
PaulaMc 13 Feb 6:30am, 13 Feb 2024 12,601 posts	0 PaulaMc Condolences to you and yours, JK. I hope the paperwork mountain turns out to be more of a big hill and that you have a helping hand to scale it.
HappyG(rrr) 13 Feb 7:25am, 13 Feb 2024 49,367 posts	0 HappyG(rrr) Condolences Jk. Sounds like it was a release in the end though. Take care.
jda 13 Feb 10:41am, 13 Feb 2024 16,474 posts	0 jda Regarding FiL, my wife finally got to speak to someone who seemed to know what was going on - the discharge nurse - and it seems that our greatest worry, of an abrupt discharge to home, is not really on the cards at all. At best he is still some weeks away from any assessment that he can live at home and they recognise that he'll need support if and when that point is reached. In the meantime we can work on the suggestion that he might recover better, and get out of hospital earlier, by going to the nice care home that he had a stay in a few years ago... There was no information regarding the x-ray that he'd had several days previously. I hope that might mean there was nothing worth noting, rather than that no-one had looked at it at all, but neither would particularly surprise me. There's another x-ray due next week, which will be the 6 week time scale we were initially told. Went past his house to pick up the post and empty the drip buckets (and also remove a handful of minor valuables) on the way to visit him, and it's utterly grim. Carpets squelching and lifting, visibly mouldy in several rooms, another few bits of ceiling tiling have fallen in. Got half a mind to turn the water on again which might finish the job.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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