Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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EvilPixie 14 Feb 5:55pm, 14 Feb 2024 51,684 posts	0 EvilPixie This is the place to rant and let off steam Even if we can’t help just getting it out will help Big hugs
Little Miss Happy 14 Feb 6:21pm, 14 Feb 2024 6,933 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Feel free to mail if it will help Linds. You are a better person than me - I think I'd be very boundaried (some might say callous) in your position. There is only so much anyone can give. As far as I'm concerned the most important thing you said is that you are doing your best to look after yourself. Please keep doing that.
LindsD 14 Feb 6:25pm, 14 Feb 2024 66,661 posts	0 LindsD Thank you all. It really helps.
Sweetie 14 Feb 7:07pm, 14 Feb 2024 19,510 posts	0 Sweetie ((Linds)) Sometimes you just need to have a good rant. I can relate to a lot of what you said, you are not alone. Obviously we have an obligation to care for our aged Ps but you have to balance it against some self-preservation too and you shouldn't feel guilty for that.
Bazoaxe 14 Feb 7:35pm, 14 Feb 2024 26,352 posts	0 Bazoaxe This really is tough when on the one hand you want to do all you can whilst on the other the actual boundaries are being broken Mrs axe has had two demands this week. One for a box of chocolates at an hours notice to give to a friend an another to immediately go around to trim toenails (at 8pm).
Lip Gloss 14 Feb 7:45pm, 14 Feb 2024 74,023 posts	0 Lip Gloss I do hope both demands were not met there and then.
McGoohan 14 Feb 7:47pm, 14 Feb 2024 53,719 posts	0 McGoohan Liebling just had a phone call from her mum. 'How do you make celery soup?' She's forgotten how - but it's only got four ingredients and she's been making it every week for at least the last ten years.
Bazoaxe 14 Feb 7:48pm, 14 Feb 2024 26,354 posts	0 Bazoaxe No, the demands were not met and will be weekend jobs
Lip Gloss 14 Feb 7:52pm, 14 Feb 2024 74,024 posts	0 Lip Gloss Such a shame Mcg So glad your wife just didn’t jump to it.
LindsD 14 Feb 11:00pm, 14 Feb 2024 66,663 posts	0 LindsD That's sad McG. My Mum is forgetting things like that but would just not eat instead of calling me.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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