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Oct 2023
9:35pm, 4 Oct 2023
64,273 posts
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LindsD
Stressful
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Oct 2023
10:12pm, 4 Oct 2023
6,688 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Glad you had some support Lizzie. I hope it’s gone well.
Well put Jabberknit.
Kaysdee - I don’t know how far gone your husband is but FiL hadn’t been able to recognise anyone for years, had to have his drinks thickened and food puréed and wasn’t even allowed to eat chocolate (something he enjoyed after his faculties had long gone) due to the choke risk. He had been locked in hospital and then the care home since his section and confined to a wheelchair for some time. There was nothing left of the man he had been. I can’t imagine what it’s like for you at such a young age or how your children deal with it.
If OH wanted to go home I’d support him but he doesn’t see the point. He says that he made the most of his time with his dad before he deteriorated too much and lost him years ago.
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Oct 2023
11:32pm, 4 Oct 2023
15,550 posts
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jda
When someone's that far gone with dementia, I think it's quite common for the feeling of those around them to be more relief than grief, and there's nothing wrong with that. My grandmother was physically healthy and went on for a long time with dementia, my dad was perhaps luckier to be a little less fit and his heart gave out before his brain completely shut down.
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Oct 2023
7:11am, 5 Oct 2023
28,074 posts
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Lizzie Whizz
No news. Rang the ward, no one picked up.
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Oct 2023
7:30am, 5 Oct 2023
2,301 posts
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CK2
So frustrating Lizzie. You must have caught a busy time. I’d think if there was news they’d have called you but worth trying again, maybe in half an hour. (Though I was so impatient when dad was in hospital I confess I rang repeatedly, though not always successfully.)
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Oct 2023
7:30am, 5 Oct 2023
64,275 posts
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LindsD
Oh Lizzie. That sounds very difficult.
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Oct 2023
7:34am, 5 Oct 2023
47,547 posts
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EvilPixie
Oh dear LW hope you get news soon
Xx
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Oct 2023
7:35am, 5 Oct 2023
29,171 posts
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Serendippily
Thinking of you Lizzie. And i hope you get to complete your holiday LMH. I am relieved the anxious waiting is over and hope the focus can shift back to how he was before x
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Oct 2023
10:11am, 5 Oct 2023
17,461 posts
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Mandymoo
LMH as you know we were in exactly the same position with Mum with her dementia, illness and being on holiday when she finally went.
It's so hard - sending you love and hugs xx
Hope you get news soon LW
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Oct 2023
11:21am, 5 Oct 2023
28,075 posts
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Lizzie Whizz
Thinking of you all.
Mum came back on to the surgical ward, not HDU, and was alert this morning, phew. Visiting pm & hope to get more info.
They're going to need care visits and consider care home if they can't cope or mum needs nursing support. I don't know much about this from this side! I see Age UK have an advice line and I think I need to phone their GP surgery anyway to let them know and see if they have a care coordinator or whatever who can advise.
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The Sandwich Generation - Aged Ps and children to care for?
Jun 2023
