Sep 2023
3:17pm, 30 Sep 2023
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LindsD
I would say you're a carer. Sounds like a chunk of time, though.
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Sep 2023
3:48pm, 30 Sep 2023
1,983 posts
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Vixx
That's the same sort of stuff I did for mom.
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Sep 2023
4:20pm, 30 Sep 2023
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Big_G
LindsD, did you mean ‘I would say you’re not a carer’? I wouldn’t consider myself as one either. But if I didn’t do the stuff I do, and keeping in mind there’s no one else to do it, I don’t think he would survive at home on his own. He should be in a care home but he doesn’t want it, and it’s his choice. But I don’t now how I’ve been categorised as a carer.
Anyway, I’ve given them some feedback on the form though as when he had his leg amputation, he was basically dumped in a wheelchair at the hospital and it was just expected that ‘someone’ would get him home, which was really not easy, and I’d argue dangerous as I had to get him in the car, and then manhandle him into his house! There was no support afterwards whatsoever - I mean zero - and this is someone who cannot push himself up the bed. We’re up and running now, but it’s taken a lot of effort.
Even stupid things like when he was temporarily in an out of area care home for a short time, his GP surgery was moved to near the care home. But when he went back home the GP surgery wasn’t moved back, which caused chaos.
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Sep 2023
6:03pm, 30 Sep 2023
64,180 posts
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LindsD
No. I would say you are.
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Sep 2023
6:04pm, 30 Sep 2023
64,181 posts
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LindsD
Exactly as you say above. Without you, he would have to be in care.
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Sep 2023
10:17pm, 30 Sep 2023
2,190 posts
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poppyH
That definitely counts as being a carer big_g.
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Oct 2023
11:57am, 1 Oct 2023
6,676 posts
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Little Miss Happy
FiL definitely on his way out. Unlikely he’ll last until we get back but BiL and nSiL are supporting MiL. Fortunately nSiL is currently unemployed.
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Oct 2023
12:21pm, 1 Oct 2023
64,196 posts
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LindsD
Hope you can still enjoy what's left of your holiday, LMH. And hope it's peaceful and painfree for him.
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Oct 2023
12:42pm, 1 Oct 2023
6,678 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Thanks Linds. Nothing we can do that will make a difference.
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Oct 2023
1:35pm, 1 Oct 2023
47,390 posts
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EvilPixie
Take care LMH
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