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Feb 2013
11:38am, 27 Feb 2013
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McGoohan
Agreed. But I still think 'zero' is a bit on the low side.
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Feb 2013
11:40am, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
Maybe for most/many people. But it depends. For instance if your partner suddenly became disabled in a way that ruled out sexual activity would you (generic you, not just McGoohan) turn your back on her/him and remove all intimacy and affection too?
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Feb 2013
11:43am, 27 Feb 2013
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Hills of Death (HOD)
To be fair I'm a bit of a perv and my ambition is to be a dirty old man (not long to go now  )
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Feb 2013
11:50am, 27 Feb 2013
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Oysterboy
I think not being able to due to illness is not the same as not wanting to. If my partner didn't want to I'd feel hurt and rejected.
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Feb 2013
11:52am, 27 Feb 2013
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Hills of Death (HOD)
People go thru patches though
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Feb 2013
11:56am, 27 Feb 2013
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Oysterboy
I mean if they said they didn't want to ever again.
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Feb 2013
11:57am, 27 Feb 2013
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Nick Cook
Interesting thread - and an issue that affects me. Mrs C isn't interested in sex anymore and we're both 55. She lets me have sex with her about once a month, but she doesn't do anything and it's not very satisfying - it's sex, not making love. She likes cuddles, although my definition of cuddle is her definition of grope.I've no intention of leaving her over it, but if the situation arose where I could get sex elsewhere, I'd take it. I don't think she'd be very happy about it if she found out though.
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Feb 2013
12:01pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Velociraptor
That's true, HOD. There's a patch that women can have to make them want sex
I did some of the market research when Female Hyposexual Desire Disorder was being invented. The men in the group all said, "Yeah, yeah, testosterone patches to help all these poor women who don't want sex, what a fantastic idea, bring it on." The women were unimpressed. "So, like, will the patch make Mrs Bloggs's husband take a shower and brush his teeth occasionally, and maybe even stop slapping her around?"
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Feb 2013
12:01pm, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
I think not wanting to is just not wanting to whatever the reason and has to be accepted and respected, though of course it can be questioned and discussed. But then I don't believe anyone has a "right" to sex. It's thinking of it in terms of a "right" that has legitimised and excused rape through the centuries, after all. If two people can live together not having sex but still have love, affection and intimacy then good for them. I'm a bit curious about the idea of "never again" because how can you know with such certainty that you'll never ever want to do it again?
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Feb 2013
12:02pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Oysterboy
Wow that is tough Nick. Has she given you any indication as to why she doesn't really want to?
I guess loss of sex drive is not unusual but maybe something can be done to help recover it.
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