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Feb 2013
8:14pm, 26 Feb 2013
6,810 posts
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McGoohan
Here's a stupid, risky and possibly inappropriate subject for a thread but what the heckins. I checked and I'm pretty sure I'm not a pervert. However, if this thread offends, feel free to report it to the moderators. (That's Fetch to any Guardianistas reading. There aren't really any mods). Anyhappenstance:
We - me and t'missus - know of two couples where (completely separately) one of the partners have said they are not interested in sex anymore. Full stop, rest of their lives type thing. One of these couple sleep in separate bedrooms now, never mind separate beds. Both these sets of people are in their forties.
Now if this was people in their 80s, I could understand it. I imagine it might take a while for the sap to rise from the roots to the branches where it's needed when you're 80+. But in your forties? These are sporty people too - cyclists and the like.
If *my* partner said to me they wouldn't be interested in sex *ever* again... isn't that really saying the relationship is effectively over?
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Feb 2013
8:22pm, 26 Feb 2013
1,365 posts
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CStar
Not necessarily at all. Some people just have a very low sex drive and if one partner has this, the other may just accept that that is part of them but doesn't mean that they love them any less.
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Feb 2013
8:23pm, 26 Feb 2013
17,130 posts
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Johnny Blaze
Is one of them a Catholic priest?
In fact are both of them Catholic priests?
That'll be the reason.
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Feb 2013
8:32pm, 26 Feb 2013
6,812 posts
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McGoohan
CStar - I think that is the case. I just think it would be very difficult for the one that has the 'normal' drive if the other has 'zer' drive.
JB - none of them are priests as far as I know.
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Feb 2013
8:33pm, 26 Feb 2013
1,661 posts
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Wobbling
I've been in a sexless relationship (for about 6 months) and I didn't like it. If the same thing happened again, I'd definitely take it as an indication MrW had gone off me and wanted out. Whatever his age.
Even it we were not doing the do, I'd still insist on sleeping in the same bed with MrW, I need him for warmth.
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Feb 2013
8:34pm, 26 Feb 2013
6,814 posts
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McGoohan
*zer= zero*
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Feb 2013
8:35pm, 26 Feb 2013
17,133 posts
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Johnny Blaze
If they discussed it and reached an accommodation i can't see why their marriage couldn't survive, although never is a very long time.
But if one declared a unilateral withdrawal from Rumpo, them I would fear the worst.
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Feb 2013
8:36pm, 26 Feb 2013
535 posts
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Da Big Guy
If it's just one of the couple - then I'd say it's not a good sign.
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Feb 2013
8:36pm, 26 Feb 2013
17,134 posts
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Johnny Blaze
And of course, no man is ever in a sexless relationship, if you know what i mean *winky*
Or should that be *wanky*
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Feb 2013
8:37pm, 26 Feb 2013
6,815 posts
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McGoohan
True, I don't know the nature of the ... erm... negotiations. I got the impression it was pretty much unilateral, but I am taking a bit of a punt there.
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Who are all the single Fetchies!!
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