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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Mar 2020
3:15pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Little Miss Happy
Thoughts are with you Chris.
Mar 2020
4:30pm, 11 Mar 2020
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DocM
hope its not as bad as it sounds Chris
that's lovely Lazy Daisy that the home are so communicative. must be very reassuring
Mar 2020
5:18pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Garfield
Take care and good luck Chris. LD, that's good that the home has made contingency plans.
Mar 2020
6:33pm, 11 Mar 2020
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The Pin Lady
MiL care home has asked for no visitors for the next 2 weeks. That will tough on FiL - not so much for MiL as she has no memory at all.
Mar 2020
6:33pm, 11 Mar 2020
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TomahawkMike
Three Swindon care homes have decided to close to all visitors today at 5pm. OH made sure she visited her Ma yesterday as we are expecting the same at the nursing home soon. I believe this is called cocooning and there is some sense to it

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Mar 2020
6:38pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Carpathius
I hope that she, you, and all the family have peace, Chris.
jda
Mar 2020
6:45pm, 11 Mar 2020
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jda
My dad's care home has a locked door and *all* visitors have to be let in by staff (previously "regulars" were allowed to know the key code). Only immediate next of kin too - they queried who I was. Seems reasonable to me though I can't be too optimistic about its success over the duration. But what can you do...a full-time lock-out (for how long?) would be very hard on the interns and the staff will probably still bring in the disease anyway.

My dad is mumbling and at times we really couldn't make out what he was saying at all, which is a shame and a change from previous. Ho hum.
Mar 2020
7:30pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Mandymoo
Thoughts are with you Chris x

Having issues with mother again - being nasty, demanding, playing up and basically pushing everyone away with her behaviour. It's so bloody hard
Mar 2020
7:39pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Garfield
Sorry to hear that Mandy. Take care jda...and hugs to anyone else needed them.xx
Mar 2020
7:43pm, 11 Mar 2020
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Lip Gloss
Big hugs to all who need them x

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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