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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD Dec 2024 6:41pm, 10 Dec 2024 71,481 posts	Quote Pin LindsD So upsetting and frustrating
christmasmental Dec 2024 8:53pm, 10 Dec 2024 765 posts	Quote Pin christmasmental Waiting for confirmation that FIL was cremated this morning (MIL didn’t want anyone in attendance). I’m trying to gently dissuade the idea of putting the ashes at his usual place at the head of the table for Xmas dinner - that’s just weird right? Or am I off base because he wasn’t my dad?
LindsD Dec 2024 8:55pm, 10 Dec 2024 71,489 posts	Quote Pin LindsD No, that's weird
EvilPixie Dec 2024 8:56pm, 10 Dec 2024 60,099 posts	Quote Pin EvilPixie No that’s weird
PaulaMc Dec 2024 8:56pm, 10 Dec 2024 13,029 posts	Quote Pin PaulaMc It’s really weird and I wouldn’t like it at all.
McGoohan Dec 2024 8:58pm, 10 Dec 2024 54,858 posts	Quote Pin McGoohan No, Christmas is a time to celebrate the living. On the mantelpiece if absolutely necessary.
Dave W Dec 2024 9:02pm, 10 Dec 2024 24,502 posts	Quote Pin Dave W Yep. Weird. But each to their own.
Merrymoo Dec 2024 9:40pm, 10 Dec 2024 20,384 posts	Quote Pin Merrymoo Very weird, not for me at all
Garfield Dec 2024 9:43pm, 10 Dec 2024 18,259 posts	Quote Pin Garfield That is a bit odd... Agree with McG - maybe on mantelpiece or somewhere like that if necessary.
Merry Lip Gloss Dec 2024 9:46pm, 10 Dec 2024 79,068 posts	Quote Pin Merry Lip Gloss I’m not sure I would be able to sit at the table. If she didn’t want anyone there to say their final goodbyes then I do think it’s weird shewants him with you all then.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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