Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Mandymoo 5 Jul 6:02pm, 5 Jul 2024 19,295 posts	0 Mandymoo Sorry for your loss Garfield Glad it went as well as it could JDA
jda 5 Jul 6:13pm, 5 Jul 2024 17,403 posts	0 jda Condolences Garfield.
Garfield 5 Jul 6:43pm, 5 Jul 2024 17,965 posts	0 Garfield Thanks all, and glad things went reasonably well jda.
Bazoaxe 5 Jul 6:49pm, 5 Jul 2024 27,005 posts	0 Bazoaxe I am so sorry Garfield
HappyG(rrr) 5 Jul 10:57pm, 5 Jul 2024 50,396 posts	0 HappyG(rrr) Condolences Garfield. Sounds like she was prepared, but always a shocked for loved ones.
Fields 5 Jul 11:05pm, 5 Jul 2024 11,464 posts	0 Fields Sorry to hear that Garfield
Little Miss Happy 6 Jul 7:53am, 6 Jul 2024 7,246 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Sorry for your loss Garfield. Good that you got to see her. Glad teh funeral went ok jda. Hope the probate is quicker/smoother than you're anticipating.
Bazoaxe 6 Jul 8:18pm, 6 Jul 2024 27,021 posts	0 Bazoaxe I think we have a situation developing. MiL regularly has blood in her urine. I can think of at least two cystoscopies, maybe more. Always results in no issue being found, but she did beat bladder cancer i would guess about 20 years ago. There has been blood for a While again and GPs called but nothing done. The GP was back out in the week and after blood tests say she needs a blood transfusion urgently and wanted us to take her in yesterday Mrs axe explained the lift issue and we cannot get her there and it will need a couple of burly ambulance guys with the right training and kit to get her down two flights of stairs. BiL remains in failure to respond to communication mode.
Lip Gloss 6 Jul 8:30pm, 6 Jul 2024 76,544 posts	0 Lip Gloss It’s a shame that she is basically trapped in her own home because her son is an arse. Hopefully they can find a solution to getting her there
Bazoaxe 6 Jul 8:33pm, 6 Jul 2024 27,022 posts	0 Bazoaxe To be fair her son isnt the cause of her being trapped, thats the broken lift. We paid for the repairs around 6 weeks ago, but as yet nothing has been done. It was put out of action around mid January after a carer was trapped in it.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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