Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD 26 Feb 8:08am, 26 Feb 2024 66,830 posts	0 LindsD That sounds distressing
Little Miss Happy 26 Feb 10:40am, 26 Feb 2024 6,957 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Hope you get some reassuring answers Linds. Doesn't sound as though he'll be going home unless there's a marked cognitive improvement jda.
LindsD 26 Feb 10:47am, 26 Feb 2024 66,832 posts	0 LindsD Thanks. To be honest, and I would only say this in here, I would almost rather a scary and worrying diagnosis with some possibility of symptom mitigation than a continuation of this litany of symptoms that she finds it difficult to live with but love to rant about but no diagnosis other than this health problem and that health problem and age. I feel bad saying that but I know I'm safe here. Perhaps a worrying diagnosis might spur her into taking some responsibility for her health instead of just expecting that there will be a side-effect free pill that will solve her issues.
Little Miss Happy 26 Feb 10:51am, 26 Feb 2024 6,958 posts	0 Little Miss Happy I hear you Linds. Unfortunately I doubt even a worrying diagnosis would change the 'fix it for me' attitude. Hopefully I'm wrong!
LindsD 26 Feb 11:06am, 26 Feb 2024 66,833 posts	0 LindsD Yeah. You are probably right.
ThorntonRunner 26 Feb 10:41pm, 26 Feb 2024 7,312 posts	0 ThorntonRunner We're sorting out extra carers and a hospital style bed for mum (99 and diagnosed last month with lung cancer). She is really struggling - quite understandably just wants to go to sleep and not wake up. Three times in the last fortnight she's had to have paramedics out during the night as she's struggled to breathe. She is now basically housebound. The doctor has said that she's unlikely to make her centenary in June. She continues to be appreciative of what anyone does for her, but she is so, so tired
Lip Gloss 26 Feb 10:44pm, 26 Feb 2024 74,251 posts	0 Lip Gloss TR, that's such a shame . Hopefully her strong will can see her through till June but is so sad to see them struggle.
LindsD 26 Feb 11:01pm, 26 Feb 2024 66,839 posts	0 LindsD That's sad TR
Little Miss Happy 27 Feb 6:15am, 27 Feb 2024 6,959 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Sorry to hear that TR. How did it go yesterday Linds?
Mandymoo 27 Feb 7:07am, 27 Feb 2024 18,437 posts	0 Mandymoo Very sad TR xx

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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