Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Ness 20 Feb 9:08pm, 20 Feb 2024 38,696 posts	0 Ness Glad it can be sorted.
LindsD 20 Feb 9:55pm, 20 Feb 2024 66,755 posts	0 LindsD Oh God. The last thing you need
Little Miss Happy 21 Feb 6:43am, 21 Feb 2024 6,950 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Naughty of the hospital McG but good you were able to sort it.
3M 21 Feb 9:04am, 21 Feb 2024 23,417 posts	0 3M That's poor forward planning by the hospital McG. Glad there is a way forward though.
jda 23 Feb 7:44pm, 23 Feb 2024 16,561 posts	0 jda Some relief here following a phone call from the discharge coordinator, who is starting to plan for FiL's discharge......but had assessed that he wasn't capable of living safely at home and intends to find a care home. Being in hospital for the past 8 weeks has obviously been very bad for him, but we can only shrug and recognise that there wasn't an alternative. We had just had a look round a local care home that seems very suitable, subject only to the usual Lancashire/Yorkshire issues from the hospital's side of things (that are not insurmountable) and the place itself having space (which it didn't yesterday but that's only a matter of timing, turnover is fairly rapid). We aren't exactly celebrating, but it was the outcome we were hoping for. Apparently his arm is in a sling of some sort, we don't know what sort of condition it's in.
Lip Gloss 23 Feb 8:15pm, 23 Feb 2024 74,158 posts	0 Lip Gloss Hard but it is probably for the best jda. Couple of estate agents into dad’s today to value the property.
LindsD 23 Feb 8:41pm, 23 Feb 2024 66,781 posts	0 LindsD Glad you've got some certainty now and he's not going home. Good luck with the next steps. Just spoke to Mum who has been quite ill all week. Doctor is looking for kidney function and listening to her symptoms I'm quite worried. Blood test results on Mon.
CK2 24 Feb 5:57am, 24 Feb 2024 2,640 posts	0 CK2 I hope you’re able to find somewhere suitable jda. That’s concerning Linds. How is she coping?
Little Miss Happy 24 Feb 6:38am, 24 Feb 2024 6,951 posts	0 Little Miss Happy I hope it's nothing serious Linds. Sounds like the best outcome jda.
LindsD 24 Feb 8:12am, 24 Feb 2024 66,788 posts	0 LindsD Thanks. She is miserable and down on all the professionals who are trying to help her as usual. It does sound pretty grim though. Dr Google doesn't say what happens if your kidneys fail at 81.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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