Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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leaguefreak
leaguefreak
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1:01pm, 20 Feb 2024
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leaguefreak
Sounds promising
Ness
Ness
20 Feb
1:03pm, 20 Feb 2024
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Ness
Hope things are OK for her and the family, McG.
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
20 Feb
1:17pm, 20 Feb 2024
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Little Miss Happy
Glad it went ok McG. I hope she's a bit more receptive to and appreciative of the help when she gets home.
McGoohan
McGoohan
20 Feb
1:58pm, 20 Feb 2024
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McGoohan
Let's hope so. It was the first night of 24/7 care last night and the carer reported that MiL was being particularly difficult. She was probably very worried about today, so we'll see how it goes through the recovery phase.
Diogenes
Diogenes
20 Feb
2:10pm, 20 Feb 2024
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Diogenes
Hope all is well with MiL, McG. How is DiL coping? Has it disturbed him or has he just accepted it all?
McGoohan
McGoohan
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2:23pm, 20 Feb 2024
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McGoohan
He's not massively functional to be honest. Most days he gets up (eventually) and only moves from his chair when he's told it's a meal time. He doesn't really say much but he's not got much idea where or when he is.
CK2
CK2
20 Feb
3:39pm, 20 Feb 2024
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CK2
That’s tough McG. I’m glad the op went ok and hope she settles down with the care.
LindsD
LindsD
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8:20pm, 20 Feb 2024
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LindsD
Me too
McGoohan
McGoohan
20 Feb
8:45pm, 20 Feb 2024
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McGoohan
It might have to be a blog, she's home now but it has not been smooth sailing.

The hosp had said they wouldn't do the op untill she had confirmed 24/7 care for her and FiL. That was sorted. Okay, good.

However, post-surgery, the hospital are dispensing the various meds she'll need so she can be discharged and then mention - for the first time I might add - that she will need to self-administer daily injections. She's 86 and unable to self-administer a cup of tea and a biscuit. She absolutely cannot be injecting herself. And it turns out the carer we have hired is not allowed to give injections. But in fairness, she wasn't expecting to.

Very last minute dot com, it has been arranged that the district nurse will call in daily to do the injections.
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
20 Feb
8:56pm, 20 Feb 2024
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EvilPixie
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Hope you can sort it out

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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