Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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5:47pm, 17 Jan 2024
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Little Miss Happy
I'm not saying it's right Happy but I think a lot of parent's feel that they 'should' leave their children something. I guess it must be a generational thing.
CK2
CK2
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This useful guide was shared by Money Saving Expert about IHT - moneysavingexpert.com
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
18 Jan
2:24am, 18 Jan 2024
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Phone call early evening to say my dad's wife/my mum (dont like the word step) had had a massive stroke and they were currently in a&e. Quick dash down to Southampton to be with dad and have just got back to his house now.

J is currently being intubated, and sedated which they are gradually reducing as they don't know how much damage has been done. Hopefully will know more in the morning. My poor dad is in shock - they were going out for dinner and she only went upstairs to change and when she didn't come down he found her laying on the bed. Had to do cpr and everything on her. Suddenly realise how frail he has got (he is 80 this year)
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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Little Miss Happy
Sorry to hear that Mandy. I hope her outcome is good.
Ness
Ness
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Sorry to hear that too MM.
LindsD
LindsD
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7:56am, 18 Jan 2024
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LindsD
Hugs MM

What a shock
CK2
CK2
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8:14am, 18 Jan 2024
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CK2
Thinking of you Mandy. That sounds terrifying for your dad.
HappyG(rrr)
HappyG(rrr)
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HappyG(rrr)
Oh gosh, that's awful Mandy. Wishing your mum all the best for recovery and your dad strength to cope.
leaguefreak
leaguefreak
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leaguefreak
Gosh Mandy. Thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome.
jda
jda
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8:51am, 18 Jan 2024
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jda
That must be a shock Mandy, hope it works out ok.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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