Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) Dec 2023 9:48pm, 5 Dec 2023 48,727 posts	0 Merry Christmas and Happy NewG(rrr) Confirmation from oncology that the lumps seen in scans in Aug, October and November are growing and in both lungs and hence cancer. All sorts of help now kicks in with diagnosis of untreatable cancer, which is good. Mum is no worse than she was before so it's all fine. Bazo sorry to hear about MiL falls. Does sound like she needs morr constant care that a home would give.
Merry Lip Gloss Dec 2023 10:09pm, 5 Dec 2023 72,619 posts	0 Merry Lip Gloss Aw that’s sad news Happy but as long as mum is no worse for the time being then that’s good news.
LindsD Dec 2023 10:40pm, 5 Dec 2023 65,333 posts	0 LindsD Hugs Happy. We found that palliative care was excellent. Hope you do too. Baz, I don't know how you and MrsAxe manage.
icemaiden Dec 2023 10:44pm, 5 Dec 2023 5,720 posts	0 icemaiden I don't know how the Axes manage either. Words need to be had.
Bazoaxe Dec 2023 5:15am, 6 Dec 2023 26,023 posts	0 Bazoaxe HG. I am sorry to hear about your mum.
Dave W Dec 2023 5:35am, 6 Dec 2023 15,503 posts	0 Dave W As am I. Glad she's not suffering, though. That's a bonus.
Little Miss Happy Dec 2023 6:33am, 6 Dec 2023 6,778 posts	0 Little Miss Happy I hope your mum gets all the care she needs Happy. The situation with your MIL is getting untenable Baz. Would it be worth Mrs Baz calling MiL's GP and seeing if they will take any action?
CK2 Dec 2023 6:46am, 6 Dec 2023 2,443 posts	0 CK2 That sounds so tough Baz, especially with BiL’s mental health issues complicating things! Your description of your MIL’s determination to give you biscuits reminded me of my dad’s determination to stand up to greet visitors which used to terrify us in his final months! Sorry to hear your news HG. I hope the palliative care is good.
decorum Dec 2023 2:28pm, 6 Dec 2023 3,951 posts	0 decorum Hugs to all. I was going to blather, but shaln't 😉
Mandymoo Dec 2023 4:28pm, 6 Dec 2023 17,895 posts	0 Mandymoo Sending hugs to the Axe's and Happy

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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