Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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EvilPixie Nov 2023 8:01pm, 17 Nov 2023 48,897 posts	0 EvilPixie I know! Hopefully they enjoyed it enough to repeat it I was very casual about it not wanting to make a thing of it but woop woop
LindsD Nov 2023 9:23pm, 17 Nov 2023 65,028 posts	0 LindsD That's absolutely brilliant news.
Lizzie Whizz Nov 2023 11:32pm, 17 Nov 2023 28,158 posts	0 Lizzie Whizz A couple of loo frames got delivered to my parents' house this evening: fortunately my in laws were visiting my dad so could put them somewhere safe! Discharge planning is clearly happening but the hospital have not thought to pop me on the contact list...
Marchog Nov 2023 11:39pm, 17 Nov 2023 209 posts	0 Marchog Today's call " I can't get your father off the stair lift" He has dementia and mobility issues. Rush over to see that he still has the seat belt on and that's the only reason he can't stand up.
CK2 Nov 2023 6:18am, 18 Nov 2023 2,410 posts	0 CK2 LW - we had this issue with one of dad’s hospital stays and it transpired that dad had told them to communicate to the family via him (and didn’t remember this.) We contacted PALS to get some information as it was difficult getting information from a busy ward.
Little Miss Happy Nov 2023 6:23am, 18 Nov 2023 6,754 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Good news Pix. Oh dear Marchdog. Hope you can get 'in the loop' Lizzie.
LindsD Nov 2023 7:39am, 18 Nov 2023 65,035 posts	0 LindsD ^^^^^
CK2 Nov 2023 12:04pm, 20 Nov 2023 2,411 posts	0 CK2 Just at mum’s at the moment. She is worrying me with her spending as she’s rapidly working her way through savings and, despite berating herself, doesn’t seem able to address this. This isn’t helped by constantly buying stuff for others and giving to charity out of guilt. I’m feeling powerless as my suggestions are largely ignored.
Little Miss Happy Nov 2023 5:10pm, 20 Nov 2023 6,760 posts	0 Little Miss Happy That does sound worrying CK2.
CK2 Nov 2023 5:30pm, 20 Nov 2023 2,413 posts	0 CK2 Yes. I’ll discuss with my brother as I’m not sure he’s aware. I’m not seeking solutions, as it’s far from simple, just good to vent!

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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Alarm company

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