Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Oct 2023
10:44am, 19 Oct 2023
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HappyG(rrr)
Mushroom, excellent article, really helpful, thanks. 40 - 80K per year for residential and or nursing care home is eye watering.  Would want my mum to be as comfortable as possible but would bankrupt us paying those sorts of fees. |
Oct 2023
10:47am, 19 Oct 2023
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EvilPixie
gran lived in Berkshire (=expensive) and was 7K a month but they add extra stuff too so one night they had a residents meeting and "treated" them to fish and chips from the van They asked for this to paid as extra and in cash! They already pay for meals so they weren't getting the meal that was included and had to pay for the replacement
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Oct 2023
10:48am, 19 Oct 2023
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EvilPixie
as you say Happy it's a cost most people can't afford and if you own a property you can't get support as you have assets (I believe) and therefore can afford it |
Oct 2023
11:24am, 19 Oct 2023
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LindsD
Added to the sidebar. Thank you Mushroom
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Oct 2023
12:40pm, 19 Oct 2023
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jda
If you own a property that’s what you use to pay for the care home. Saw that article and thought generally useful though raised an eyebrow at “ Crucially, obtain a lasting power of attorney (LPA) over your parent or relative – ideally before they go into care and while they still retain mental capacity.” Which seems dangerously complacent to me. There’s no “ideally” to it, once they have lost capacity it can’t be done. |
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Oct 2023
1:33pm, 19 Oct 2023
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LindsD
Spent the morning at the hospital w Mum for a routine appointment and have to take her somewhere else this pm. Send patience. Everything she does and says winds me up. I'm really trying, but it's so hard.
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Oct 2023
2:03pm, 19 Oct 2023
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Dave W
^^^^Patience^^^^
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Oct 2023
2:13pm, 19 Oct 2023
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HappyG(rrr)
And breathe. (((Linds))) G
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Oct 2023
2:14pm, 19 Oct 2023
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LindsD
Thank you. I feel so bad, but I just really struggle with being around her.
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Oct 2023
2:17pm, 19 Oct 2023
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jda
Hope you can find a way to get through the day. If you work out how, let us know
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