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Sep 2023
7:23am, 28 Sep 2023
3,229 posts
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PenW
I’ll have a think Liz and see what I can come up with. Don’t know of any books but I’m sure I can cobble together some thoughts and advice. I’ll also take a look at our hospital leaflets and see if there is anything.
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Sep 2023
7:40am, 28 Sep 2023
64,106 posts
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LindsD
It's difficult to think about the worst I know but will you feel better if you have prepared?
I would say definitely spread the load if you can. Don't feel you have to or should do everything. OH did a lot of information sharing for me. And other people do appreciate being given information.
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Sep 2023
7:58am, 28 Sep 2023
28,046 posts
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Lizzie Whizz
Thanks. Sorry for updates via here Pen
Mr W is mostly looking after T12, which is v helpful.
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Sep 2023
8:22am, 28 Sep 2023
64,112 posts
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LindsD
That's good.
If she uses a smartphone, be good to know the pin or passcode.
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Sep 2023
8:43am, 28 Sep 2023
2,284 posts
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CK2
I can’t think of a book but how we managed this was making a list of contacts and then deciding h who to inform at each stage and how. This mainly led to my mum (who struggled to delegate) calling close friends and family and emailing a small selection of others when it was clear it was serious. Very stressful for you.
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Sep 2023
8:47am, 28 Sep 2023
2,285 posts
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CK2
Much less serious than what many of you are dealing with at the moment, but can I have a quick sound off about my mum? Actually sound off is the wrong terminology, more a worry! As a family we are all prone to anxiety, however one year on from my dad’s death, her anxiety definitely seemed heightened at my visit last weekend. Everything is a worry and she’s forgetting things in her panics. I fear my anxiety may be exaggerating hers in my mind! Anyway, she’s reasonably ok otherwise.
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Sep 2023
8:49am, 28 Sep 2023
29,149 posts
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Serendippily
Achieving something new or being right in something can help enormously, so if you can engineer getting her to help you or someone else with something? Appreciate not all anxiety is the same or comes from same place #notadoctor
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Sep 2023
8:54am, 28 Sep 2023
64,114 posts
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LindsD
My Mum is the same CK2 and it's hard to know how much of her impaired functioning is down to anxiety and how much is decline. Dipps is right though.
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Sep 2023
8:57am, 28 Sep 2023
29,150 posts
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Serendippily
Lizzie am thinking of you and advice above is good. It may help you to plan for multiple scenarios, so you feel more prepped, a bit like mitigating a risk. So plan away and then take absolute baby steps about what you put into action, because the end game is more about helping your mum now than easing logistics later, so you dont want to set her off catastrophising. I hope that helps, i think it is more advice i wish i found it easier to follow myself xx
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Sep 2023
9:32am, 28 Sep 2023
28,047 posts
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Lizzie Whizz
Thank you. Yes, Dipps, my special skill is paralysis by overthinking x
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