Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Ness
Ness
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12:31pm, 30 Aug 2023
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Ness
That's very sad, Bazoaxe. :(
LindsD
LindsD
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12:39pm, 30 Aug 2023
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LindsD
I'm so sorry. What an awful situation.
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
Aug 2023
2:39pm, 30 Aug 2023
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Lip Gloss
Oh Baz, what an awful situation to be in.
leaguefreak
leaguefreak
Aug 2023
2:59pm, 30 Aug 2023
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leaguefreak
Sorry to hear that Baz
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
Aug 2023
3:02pm, 30 Aug 2023
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EvilPixie
{{Baz}}
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
Aug 2023
5:53pm, 30 Aug 2023
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Little Miss Happy
Sorry to hear that Baz. If you want a more private rant feel free to Fmail.
LindsD
LindsD
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6:06pm, 30 Aug 2023
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LindsD
Ditto
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
Aug 2023
7:05pm, 30 Aug 2023
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Mandymoo
So sorry Baz
decorum
decorum
Aug 2023
7:35pm, 30 Aug 2023
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decorum
Hugs to all.

Aged Parent, who won't give up driving until officialdom asserts it so*, has decided that he can no longer do any washing up as it's now too much to stand ~ his balance is getting worse ...

... he now gets out of his chair 4 or 5 times a day and is vehement in his belief that his age not his being a lazy git, has led to this loss of mobility. Oddly, he admits to being too lazy ~ but he can't accept the potential of cause and a/effect 😉

* The powers that be (in this instance, numerous NHS bods) have told him that he needs to be on his feet and more active ... or be bed ridden! He just states that he's on the waiting list for physio ~ and a number of Doctors have told him that him walking to the end of the street & back doesn't require physio, will keep him ticking over, and make the (eventual) physio treatment that bit easier ... to no heed! 😉😏🙄 . He's always liked being looked after/cared for. That people he knows tell him that his driving worries them is laughed off! 🥴🫣
jda
jda
Aug 2023
8:52pm, 30 Aug 2023
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jda
It's great when siblings get on well, but fairly common that they don't. My sister was a great friend but I haven't spoken to my brother in a few years and have no wish to do so. My wife and her brother are sort of in between those extremes, they exchange some polite communication occasionally (he lives abroad) but not much more.

It's not necessary to maintain a relationship with someone just because you are related, though it can be awkward to deal with potentially shared interests like aged parents.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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