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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Badger Jun 2021 9:27pm, 5 Jun 2021 13,911 posts	0 Badger Sounds painful for you. Good work though. I hope they enjoyed it
CK2 Jun 2021 10:23pm, 5 Jun 2021 847 posts	0 CK2 That’s tough McG. Really feel for you Dio.
Little Miss Happy Jun 2021 5:34am, 6 Jun 2021 4,596 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Sad days Dio but it's good that you can be with her. Well managed from the sounds of it Dio.
Mandymoo Jun 2021 8:31am, 6 Jun 2021 11,954 posts	0 Mandymoo 80 😳
leaguefreak Jun 2021 10:51am, 6 Jun 2021 9,491 posts	0 leaguefreak Off to drop mum some clean things at the hospital. Just a 120 mile round trip.
Lizzie Whizz Jun 2021 6:27pm, 7 Jun 2021 25,104 posts	0 Lizzie Whizz Bazo, can you get an on/off switch extension for the shower, so they can get the temp right then turn off while she gets in, then power back on? Or a remote control? Not sure how much work they would be to install.
MarkyMarkMark (3M) Jun 2021 6:56pm, 7 Jun 2021 15,351 posts	0 MarkyMarkMark (3M) I think you can get "smart” shower controls so you can use Alexa or a mobile phone to control then too? I don't suppose they're very cheap though. Just restarted the PoA conversations with my siblings. My Mum is in respite care for the week, and we going down to visit in a fortnight. So it's a good week to set it up whilst Sis isn't too stressed, and we'll be able to all be in one place shortly after. Allegedly all the paperwork is 'almost' ready, so I just needs to negotiate between my brother and sister, and get Mum on a good day, and her friend who is there to say we're not acting against her will. Should be easy, right?
leaguefreak Jun 2021 8:05pm, 7 Jun 2021 9,505 posts	0 leaguefreak It was very straightforward for us but we splashed out and used a solicitor when mum was in fine fettle.
LindsD Jun 2021 8:17pm, 7 Jun 2021 47,567 posts	0 LindsD We did too. And I've just discovered you can do something online that means you don't need certified copies.
Big_G Jun 2021 8:17pm, 7 Jun 2021 936 posts	0 Big_G Dad is currently in a community hospital for some rehab after his foot amputation. The Occupational Therapist is asking to see me and Dad's partner tomorrow, and is asking me take pics of his house, doors, bed, steps up to the front door, measurements etc, which I will do. His partner and I are going to be (brutally!) honest about our concerns, but is there anything else I should be asking about? I was going to ask about a care plan, and if there is a social(?) worker assigned but is there anything else I should be asking whilst I have this opportunity at this early stage?

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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