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LindsD 24 Jan 11:38am, 24 Jan 2025 72,298 posts	0 LindsD Good news McG and LG
cackleberry 24 Jan 11:44am, 24 Jan 2025 4,569 posts	0 cackleberry All change our end too, following an assessment from both the mental health and social care teams, my mum has been booked in for respite care. she is apparently up for this, and my brother and I are going down to help her move next week.
Bazoaxe 24 Jan 11:45am, 24 Jan 2025 27,939 posts	0 Bazoaxe I know I worried about the funeral plan MiL had as I had read some bad stories. Fortunately she seemed to have chosen a reputable provider and paid up front a dozen years ago
LindsD 24 Jan 11:46am, 24 Jan 2025 72,300 posts	0 LindsD That's good cackleberry
McGoohan 24 Jan 12:43pm, 24 Jan 2025 54,978 posts	0 McGoohan I hope my MiL is as amenable as your mum cackleberry - that sounds very positive
cackleberry 24 Jan 4:17pm, 24 Jan 2025 4,571 posts	0 cackleberry I think the routine and regular meals along with some sort of social interaction will improve my mum's existence around 200%. I'm hoping she likes it enough to consider a permanent move to a care home. Thinking about it, she has never been 'looked after' so being waited on hand and foot almost might make her see that her dogged independence is misguided.
Little Miss Happy 24 Jan 5:45pm, 24 Jan 2025 7,799 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Good news cackleberry. I hope she does find it a positive experience and want to make it more permanent. I hope that things can be progressed without too much more stress McG.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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