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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Shades 22 Jan 6:27pm, 22 Jan 2025 5,917 posts	0 Shades 😱
HappyG(rrr) 22 Jan 6:32pm, 22 Jan 2025 51,816 posts	0 HappyG(rrr) Oh that's terrifying. Bills of that size.
EvilPixie 22 Jan 6:33pm, 22 Jan 2025 61,542 posts	0 EvilPixie Interesting to see how they came to that figure And how they expect you to pay
Mandymoo 22 Jan 8:06pm, 22 Jan 2025 20,720 posts	0 Mandymoo Good news on the sale but that bill 😱
cackleberry 22 Jan 8:08pm, 22 Jan 2025 4,561 posts	0 cackleberry Silly question... Do we have to wait for social care to pull their fingers out, or can we just contact care homes directly? Mum won't qualify for any financial assistance, so I don't see why we can't just crack on and start viewing places to find one that will suit.
LindsD 22 Jan 8:24pm, 22 Jan 2025 72,268 posts	0 LindsD That's terrible LG I don't know cackleberry, but I bet someone does
jdawayinamanger 22 Jan 8:38pm, 22 Jan 2025 18,379 posts	0 jdawayinamanger Crack on and sort it yourself @cackleberry if that’s the situation you’re in. In our experience you’re very much on your own at this point!
icemaiden 22 Jan 8:45pm, 22 Jan 2025 5,833 posts	0 icemaiden Yup. If there's no way the council have to contribute you are outside the system and can choose where you like on whatever criteria are appropriate.
cackleberry 22 Jan 8:48pm, 22 Jan 2025 4,563 posts	0 cackleberry Lovely, that is what I thought. Thanks for confirming 👍
LipGloss 22 Jan 9:53pm, 22 Jan 2025 79,732 posts	0 LipGloss Well that’s wiped 100k off the sale of the house

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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