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Jan 2023
7:52am, 23 Jan 2023
59,537 posts
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LindsD
We are all doing our best. Today I have to go to school for a meeting to discuss the fact that LittleD hasn't been in a particular teacher's lesson since Nov. This is disputed by LittleD. It is true that she's missed perhaps four of said lessons, mostly for valid reasons. It is also true that she doesn't like the teacher. It is true that I also don't like the teacher, who only alerted me to the situation last week, and when I asked why nothing was said at parents' eve, said 'the other teacher must have forgotten'. So it will either be a waste of time or there will be a row. Let's hope for the former.
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Jan 2023
7:53am, 23 Jan 2023
59,538 posts
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LindsD
It is, however, testament to improved mental health all round that this incident has been dealt with as the minor irritation it is.
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Jan 2023
9:32am, 23 Jan 2023
4,577 posts
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jelly
I just need to vent about my 19 year old. He does about 30 hours a week in a coffee shop. He’s been there since last Feb or March. He pays me £100 a month rent. Then spends it all. Over Christmas he had £200 Christmas money then another £80 birthday money. Infact he didn’t have his Christmas money till after Christmas but then had the £80 last week. It’s all gone on alcohol and takeaway pizzas and going out. He stays up all night and sleeps all day. The lights and Internet in his room are on if you get up for the loo! His room is just a mess of bags of rubbish and half eaten food and bottles. I’m fed up.
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Jan 2023
11:13am, 23 Jan 2023
59,541 posts
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LindsD
Sounds familiar....
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Jan 2023
11:20am, 23 Jan 2023
27,672 posts
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Serendippily
Vent away jelly. My dad would lean in and tell us from an early age how he would no longer be responsible for us from age 18 and he thought that generous, given all his family worked from 14 and there was no history of all this university malarkey in the family. I wouldnt have that but i also see no pathway to child leaving. One may emerge and we’ll be bereft when it does but it is also quite intimidating especially financially. 19 is early days though
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Jan 2023
11:21am, 23 Jan 2023
27,673 posts
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Serendippily
Pissing school Linds i hoped you were away from all that. But it is really good how its become an irritation rather than an apocalypse
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Jan 2023
11:27am, 23 Jan 2023
4,582 posts
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jelly
I moved out at 18, it’s not that he’s here though, it’s the way he is here. The state of the room is pissing me off right now. If he stopped staying up all night and sleeping all day that would help. If he doesn’t work more hours he will never afford to leave but he’s also just frittering money away on alcohol, smoking and has nothing. There’s a neighbour the same age who has saved enough to buy a car and start driving lessons.
I have a nephew in his 40s who is at home with my sister and has basically spent all his money on beer and fags for years! It’s sad! I don’t want to be her!
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Jan 2023
11:27am, 23 Jan 2023
59,542 posts
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LindsD
Yes, exactly.
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Jan 2023
11:28am, 23 Jan 2023
59,543 posts
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LindsD
That was actually to Dipps but works for jelly too
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Jan 2023
11:33am, 23 Jan 2023
27,674 posts
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Serendippily
Meanwhile this was homework brutally dispassionate and just when there was a glimmer of regularity. MrS cancer treatment and the ill fated visits we made post op were so clearly a trigger for her breakdown, as was the way she can hear other children whispering her dad has cancer. We have been careful not to talk about the probability it will recur and the impact on life expectancy and its hard enough for us as adults to see the math. A major difference is she showed the page to me and talked about it to pastoral and the senior team, in terms of how it impacted her and could impact others. Every day feels like it could go either way
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Assisting teens in choosing university for 2021 during a pandemic
Nov 2020
