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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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9 Jan
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LindsD
At the time, we were £7 over the threshold (yes, seven pounds) and it was still pretty quick.
9 Jan
10:30am, 9 Jan 2025
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Mandymoo
Probate was done ages ago here but still not sorted everything out but I think that is a lot to do with paperwork this end, with my dad and brother. They are both a nightmare
9 Jan
5:00pm, 9 Jan 2025
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christmasmental
Slightly dreading it as we have now been told we will have to do probate for FIL for one of the high street banks to transfer a not massive sum to his widow. Literally no one else needs it, it’s nowhere near the threshold but some sod decided to be ornery. Debating whether it’s even worthwhile tbh.
9 Jan
5:41pm, 9 Jan 2025
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jdawayinamanger
You could certainly consider calling their bluff by telling them you aren’t going to bother…can’t imagine they will really want to keep the account indefinitely.
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3M
I'd be asking them for their justification. Not least of all because a widow would normally inherit automatically.

From https://www.gov.uk/applying-for-probate/if-theres-a-will#:~:text=You%20can%20apply%20for%20probate,ll%20become%20a%20public%20record.

"You may not need probate if the person who died:
only had savings
owned shares or money with others - this automatically passes to the surviving owners unless they’ve agreed otherwise
owned land or property as ‘joint tenants’ with others - this automatically passes to the surviving owners"
9 Jan
10:24pm, 9 Jan 2025
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Lizzie W
Yes, for us the property and joint accounts went to the remaining spouse but larger sole account having to get probate for.
10 Jan
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Big_G
When my wife died I needed probate for her individual savings. The house and joint savings came to me, as did her pension. But her individual savings I needed probate for.
10 Jan
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Mandymoo
Same here - half of house and joint accounts all went to dad, savings went to probate and then the trust (which is where the other half of the house is going)
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christmasmental
Thanks all, that’s helpful to know. Going to see if we can’t talk some sense into them first
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ThorntonRunner
My cousin died (cancer) mid-December. Just had a call from his brother asking if I'd be able to give his father - my uncle - a lift to and from the funeral. It's hit me that my uncle (mid-90s) moves from his home of many decades into a care home on Monday, and then buries his son on Friday. Must be so hard for him. Hopefully the fact that his son was a fine man - a retired firefighter and a man of real integrity - will be of some comfort.

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Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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