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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Ally-C
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I’m trying to work out how an 85 year old with no internet access has arranged a delivery to someone from a florist hundreds of miles away in Macclesfield.

Wouldn’t mind but I never even got a birthday card 😂
Little Miss Happy
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Resourceful Ally!
Ally-C
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Little Miss Happy wrote:Resourceful Ally!


If only she could do anything nice for the folk who do everything for her(not me), but for the best part of 20 years that hasn’t been the case.
Ally-C
Ally-C
Dec 2024
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Don’t blame the person, blame the illness. But that’s hard when it’s hurtful over such a prolonged period.
Little Miss Happy
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It is Ally and you can't put everything down to the illness - as she's just evidenced.
jdawayinamanger
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Lawyer says probate may be 8-12 weeks now. I’ll believe it when I see it but that’s a cause for some optimism.
Lizzie W
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I hope ours is quick.
Bazoaxe
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But coincidence we had a lawyer update tonight and one of our questions back is how long they think conformation (ie probate) will take. We were hoping less than 8-12 weeks, but if thats the guide ad we are behind your then its 12-16 weeks away I guess
3M
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I hope that's the case @jda for you!
I listened and nodded non-commitally to a guy from Co-Op Legal Services for about 40 minutes yesterday, whilst he tried to sell us their services for Probate mainly by telling me how many people struggle with the form filling process. His "fixed price" was double what the solicitors who were holding Mum's will quoted, and we thought they were expensive! And of course, they have no control over what speed the probate courts work at.

I'm quite looking forward to doing it myself now!

Valuer coming to look at the house tomorrow morning. Stage 1 (and major part) of info required to value estate for probate and IHT.
Lizzie W
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The info for the probate forms isn't mega complicated (unless your finances are) but the forms are mind boggling (compared to, for instance, a self-assessment tax return)!

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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