Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Corrah 13 Aug 7:20am, 13 Aug 2024 8,582 posts	0 Corrah Big hugs to you also Big_G. Glad you have lots of great memories and hoping all goes smoothly.
Mandymoo 13 Aug 7:48am, 13 Aug 2024 19,544 posts	0 Mandymoo Sending hugs Big_G, some great memories there
Lip Gloss 13 Aug 7:56am, 13 Aug 2024 77,035 posts	0 Lip Gloss Big_G you sound as proud of him as he was of you and that’s a great memory to keep.
Grast_girl 13 Aug 10:11am, 13 Aug 2024 3,115 posts	0 Grast_girl Sounds emotional, but in a good way Big_G.
Bazoaxe 13 Aug 9:02pm, 13 Aug 2024 27,212 posts	0 Bazoaxe An interesting visit tonight. On arrival nurses said she was really happy and settled It quickly became clear MiL was not happy and settled. She just hasn’t quite formulated her reasons. The place itself is quite nice and MiL looked better than I have seen her in c two years. Dressed, washed, in a chair watching telly. As we left we spoke again to the head nurse who said she has no medical care needs and no complex care they can see. They did say things could deteriorate quickly but also spoke about possibly going home with a care package or maybe a care home. It’s a tricky situation as Mrs axe knows her mum isn’t happy and wants to be home. However she also know she is cared for, and currently at no cost. If things stay as they are and they want MiL to go home, then there will be fun times with BiL. He refused another attempt to put differences behind us and speak today.
Lip Gloss 13 Aug 9:31pm, 13 Aug 2024 77,045 posts	0 Lip Gloss Things still seem so up in the air for you Baz. Just a shame BiL and Mrs Axe can’t sing from the same hymn sheet and get things straighten.
Bazoaxe 13 Aug 9:43pm, 13 Aug 2024 27,214 posts	0 Bazoaxe I can see what happened and why. The medical judgement was made in haste based on two events. They thought her time was up. They are probably right about the bladder cancer but how widespread and how long she has left are pure guesswork. We are already three weeks in and there is no noticeable change in her.
Little Miss Happy 14 Aug 6:03am, 14 Aug 2024 7,331 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Sorry to hear that there may be more upset on the horizon Baz.
Bazoaxe 14 Aug 12:14pm, 14 Aug 2024 27,216 posts	0 Bazoaxe It is what it is LMH. We just need to deal with it. Mrs A struggling
CK2 14 Aug 1:03pm, 14 Aug 2024 2,769 posts	0 CK2 I’m not surprised Baz - sounds dreadful!

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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