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13 Jul
6:22am, 13 Jul 2024
7,265 posts
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Little Miss Happy
One thing after another sometimes Linds. Hope your OH is recovering well? Do you know how long your Mum will need to be in hospital etc?
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13 Jul
7:03am, 13 Jul 2024
68,864 posts
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LindsD
Yeah. I haven't spoken to Mum since OH has been incapacitated. He is planning to do a work trip in Sept so I'm assuming he will be fairly independent by then although neither of us know for sure. If necessary I will have to bring Mum back here to recuperate.
No idea of the scope of the op. She is having her ovaries removed. She was pushing for a full hysterectomy but the consultant said she might not be able to cope w the length of op, which I found a bit surprising.
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13 Jul
9:02am, 13 Jul 2024
7,266 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Hope it isn't just wishful thinking on OH's part Linds. More details from your mum would help!
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13 Jul
4:21pm, 13 Jul 2024
68,868 posts
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LindsD
I need to call her but she often doesn't remember details.
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13 Jul
6:13pm, 13 Jul 2024
54,247 posts
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McGoohan
My MiL had a full hysterectomy this year and it was done - to my surprise - as a keyhole-type procedure. She was in and out in a day.
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13 Jul
8:24pm, 13 Jul 2024
68,874 posts
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LindsD
Thanks. I have just spoken to her and seen the letter and it's pelvic repair as well as a hysterectomy so more complicated than I thought. She has a consultation on 28th Aug but neither my sister nor I can go with her, which is not ideal.
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14 Jul
6:34am, 14 Jul 2024
7,267 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Would/has she given consent for information to be shared with you Linds? If so a call to the consultants secretary a few days after the 28th should give you more details of proposed time in hospital etc.
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14 Jul
6:54am, 14 Jul 2024
68,878 posts
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LindsD
That's brilliant. Thank you. She would. And we have POA
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15 Jul
4:35pm, 15 Jul 2024
474 posts
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shyfire
Working through worst case scenarios here. In event all adult children/direct descendants pre-decease an elderly parent is there a way that the adult child's estates can be put in trust/protected to provide for parent care living costs whilst parent is still alive with any remaining monies passing to another beneficiary nominated by deceased adult child? In short how do I ensure there is enough money for mum if she needs care without it ending up with some random second cousin I've never met.
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15 Jul
4:44pm, 15 Jul 2024
24,408 posts
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3M
I don't think there's anything that required money to be passed "down" the generations. Surely it's just enough to specify that in the event of pre-deceasing all others in a specific group, then the money goes to the parent, with a rider that it may need to be held/invested in trust until such time as a given event (care home needed) occurs?
Although it is probably worth a solicitor/legal expert doing the exact wording to prevent any confusion, once you've defined the exact requirement.
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The Sandwich Generation - Aged Ps and children to care for?
Jun 2023
