Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD 21 Jul 11:52am, 21 Jul 2024 68,950 posts	0 LindsD Oh no Baz. I'm so sorry. How awful (())
LindsD 21 Jul 11:53am, 21 Jul 2024 68,951 posts	0 LindsD And thanks gg. That's helpful
Little Miss Happy 21 Jul 12:36pm, 21 Jul 2024 7,273 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Really sorry to hear that Baz. I hope that Mrs Baz can accept that her mum is safe and there's nothing she can do but take the opportunity to relax and enjoy your holiday so that she's best equipped to deal with whatever is waiting for her when she gets back.
PaulaMc 21 Jul 12:47pm, 21 Jul 2024 12,876 posts	0 PaulaMc That’s good advice, LMH. A horrible situation to be in. We had something similar a few years ago when we arrived in Portugal: as C was checking in to our apartment I was on the phone with the police and social services in England as my dad had been found wandering the streets and was taken to hospital where he was diagnosed as malnourished and confused. It turned out to be the best thing in the end as he was safe and looked after until we got back and the social worker helped find suitable sheltered accommodation for him. I hope you/Mrs Baz are able to relax a bit.
Bazoaxe 21 Jul 12:49pm, 21 Jul 2024 27,103 posts	0 Bazoaxe Thanks. We are starting to relax after the initial concern and frustration.
Little Miss Happy 21 Jul 12:51pm, 21 Jul 2024 7,274 posts	0 Little Miss Happy I've been there too - holiday in Florida and FiL goes missing, start of the real decline with his dementia.
HappyG(rrr) 21 Jul 1:30pm, 21 Jul 2024 50,490 posts	0 HappyG(rrr) Hope MiL is OK Bazo. Maybe this will make her and the services see that she really needs to be in supported accommodation. Hope you can chill and enjoy your hols. G
leaguefreak 21 Jul 1:46pm, 21 Jul 2024 12,910 posts	0 leaguefreak Sorry to hear that Baz.
Bazoaxe 21 Jul 2:32pm, 21 Jul 2024 27,104 posts	0 Bazoaxe It’s the attitude of BiL I just don’t understand. He doesn’t seem to care that people question his lack of any compassion for his own mother. All to protect his own mental health without a care for the impact he had on everyone else.
Mandymoo 21 Jul 2:38pm, 21 Jul 2024 19,392 posts	0 Mandymoo Sadly Baz there are so many people like your BIL out there. Glad you are more settled and able to relax a bit now. Really hope this is the start to getting things sorted for you all

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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