Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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jda 17 Jun 3:13pm, 17 Jun 2024 17,307 posts	0 jda Coroner shambles continues, my wife attended her appointment at the council only to find the relevant paperwork had not arrived and no progress could be made. "Oh there's plenty of time still before the funeral" they helpfully reassured her (2 weeks today).
LindsD 17 Jun 5:17pm, 17 Jun 2024 68,511 posts	0 LindsD Oh god what a nightmare
Little Miss Happy 17 Jun 5:22pm, 17 Jun 2024 7,206 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Not what you need.
Mandymoo 17 Jun 5:37pm, 17 Jun 2024 19,171 posts	0 Mandymoo Beggars belief - hope it all gets sorted
jda 17 Jun 8:34pm, 17 Jun 2024 17,308 posts	0 jda A bit of foot stamping and shouting down the phone (probably not really) and it’s sorted. Fortunately she had made a morning appointment and had something else to do in Skipton through the middle of the day; later that afternoon she went back to the registry office and now has an actual certificate. Which is just as well as we’d already made an appointment with lawyer for tomorrow. Phew. No one actually believes the cause of death as “frailty due to old age” but no one is going to do anything about it so at least we can get on with things now.
jabberknit 17 Jun 8:38pm, 17 Jun 2024 4,523 posts	0 jabberknit Glad it's been sorted, jda. My Mum's death cert had 'frailty and dementia' down as the causes. It doesn't really sound medical enough, does it?
LindsD 17 Jun 8:50pm, 17 Jun 2024 68,515 posts	0 LindsD Phew.
PaulaMc 17 Jun 10:20pm, 17 Jun 2024 12,813 posts	0 PaulaMc FiL has some old fake guns - fake as in made of wood with bits of metal fixed to them. He seems to be doing a bit of decluttering of late and tried to give one to Son2 (who said thanks but no thanks). MiL has now got it into her head that Son2 will take them all, they will fall into the wrong hands and will somehow be commissioned as working firearms. She phoned C earlier and told him he had to watch the news because there was going to be a piece on it about guns being picked up by gangs. He said this wouldn’t and couldn’t happen and she got really cross - he clearly just doesn’t understand how serious this is, he’s foolish. She’s totally fixated on it.
LindsD 17 Jun 10:27pm, 17 Jun 2024 68,517 posts	0 LindsD Oh God. What a pain.
Little Miss Happy 18 Jun 6:38am, 18 Jun 2024 7,207 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Good news jda. Oh dear Paula. Could they be persuaded to hand them in at a police station?

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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