15 Mar
9:23pm, 15 Mar 2024
32,276 posts
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macca 53
[nowt so queer as folk!]
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15 Mar
9:49pm, 15 Mar 2024
67,191 posts
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LindsD
[She's got no logic circuits left]
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15 Mar
10:08pm, 15 Mar 2024
16,697 posts
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jda
FiL has reportedly managed to stand briefly, with the aid of a frame to hold onto. Must admit our first reaction on hearing that was a brief moment of panic at the thought that he might recover enough to leave the care home. No real danger of that though, he's a long way off both mentally and physically now. He did however ask after his house yesterday for the first time since he's been there.
My wife answered honestly (some might say brutally!), which probably wouldn't have been my approach, but as she said, if he's going to ask questions, there's no reason why they shouldn't be answered honestly.
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16 Mar
6:34am, 16 Mar 2024
67,193 posts
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LindsD
Fair enough. Good that he is working on mobility though.
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17 Mar
6:04pm, 17 Mar 2024
26,461 posts
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Bazoaxe
I won’t go In To details but it was a pretty grim visit to see MiL today with the whole time being spent cleaning
Mil was pretty upset especially at what we had to do. Very thankful though as well. She did say she didn’t know what to do and Mrs axe mentioned care maybe being an option. The response was again quite an emphatic no.
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17 Mar
11:37pm, 17 Mar 2024
67,213 posts
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LindsD
I'm sorry
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18 Mar
6:20am, 18 Mar 2024
7,026 posts
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Little Miss Happy
Such a difficult situation Baz.
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18 Mar
7:33am, 18 Mar 2024
16,567 posts
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Alice the Camel
Awful for you all.
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18 Mar
7:56am, 18 Mar 2024
74,728 posts
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Lip Gloss
Difficult for you but if MiL is so upset at you having to be the ones cleaning up why is she so against realising it’s time to get the help 24/7. Such a sad situation
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18 Mar
8:02am, 18 Mar 2024
53,865 posts
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McGoohan
Cognitive dissonance I think. We get similar push-back from my MiL. The evidence can be clear there's a problem but she won't accept any solution but her own. And that's usually just 'leave me alone, we don't need any help'... followed a short while later by a phone call to say, 'We've run out of X'.
In fact I think my MiL doesn't think that help from family members is 'help' as such. It's invisible to her which is why she thinks she can end all care company help and still be independent.
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